I'll start off by describing my personality a little. I'm a fairly quiet person, and I don't really go out of my way to talk to people. When I'm with people I know, I'm a lot more outgoing, and although I don't usually seek out conversations, if someone starts one with me, I can carry it on just fine.
There's a girl in one of my classes (it's an evening math class at a university), and I'm starting to get interested in her. She's cute, and I know that she's intelligent (the class is differential equations). She's also really quiet.
We have similar habits: when we go to class we sit away from all of the other students, but not with each other. We don’t say anything at all during class, and when class is over we head straight to the parking lot and leave.
I keep meaning to catch up to her and talk to her after class. When our teacher hands back assignments, he calls out our names and because of that I’ve figured out her name. I was planning on catching up to her after class and saying “Hey, your name’s ______, right?” and then introducing myself and asking if she minded if I walked with her. If didn’t mind, I would just talk about general student stuff (other classes, major, etc) and when we got to the car, I was going to say that I enjoyed talking to her and ask if I could take her to coffee or a movie or something (I thought dinner might be too much so soon, especially since we’re both quiet people).
We’ve talked once, very briefly about class, but I still can’t bring myself to talk to her again. When we walk out to the parking lot, we have to go through several doors and I’ve held them for her several times, and she’s beaten me to them several times as well and held the door until I got there, then kept walking.
The problem is every time I go to talk to her now, I chicken out. During the day and during the class I manage to get myself prepared to talk to her. I tell myself that the worst that can happen is that she says no, and that I just need to toughen up and do it. Then when we’re leaving, I’m always too nervous to say anything.
Any advice? I’d also like to avoid the friend zone, which happened last time I asked a girl out (she was the first and only one I’ve ever asked out).
There's a girl in one of my classes (it's an evening math class at a university), and I'm starting to get interested in her. She's cute, and I know that she's intelligent (the class is differential equations). She's also really quiet.
We have similar habits: when we go to class we sit away from all of the other students, but not with each other. We don’t say anything at all during class, and when class is over we head straight to the parking lot and leave.
I keep meaning to catch up to her and talk to her after class. When our teacher hands back assignments, he calls out our names and because of that I’ve figured out her name. I was planning on catching up to her after class and saying “Hey, your name’s ______, right?” and then introducing myself and asking if she minded if I walked with her. If didn’t mind, I would just talk about general student stuff (other classes, major, etc) and when we got to the car, I was going to say that I enjoyed talking to her and ask if I could take her to coffee or a movie or something (I thought dinner might be too much so soon, especially since we’re both quiet people).
We’ve talked once, very briefly about class, but I still can’t bring myself to talk to her again. When we walk out to the parking lot, we have to go through several doors and I’ve held them for her several times, and she’s beaten me to them several times as well and held the door until I got there, then kept walking.
The problem is every time I go to talk to her now, I chicken out. During the day and during the class I manage to get myself prepared to talk to her. I tell myself that the worst that can happen is that she says no, and that I just need to toughen up and do it. Then when we’re leaving, I’m always too nervous to say anything.
Any advice? I’d also like to avoid the friend zone, which happened last time I asked a girl out (she was the first and only one I’ve ever asked out).
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