What's the best way for me to prove that I'm really actually a nice guy to a girl on an online dating site?
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Attracting a beautiful woman is NOT about "proving" anything.
The last thing you want to do is have that mindset. It puts you into a role where you're always fighting for approval and she's always giving it... if you meet her standards, requirements, or requests.
Don't do this.
First - women don't want a "nice guy" who's trying to prove himself. They want am honest guy with his own thoughts and feelings, his own motivations and passions... even if they're different from hers.
If you're a nice guy it'll naturally come through in your converstation. If your an asshole that'll also come through. If you're not sure which one you are then you're likely a nice guy.
The problem with "nice guys" is that they tend to be spineless. They tend to be "nice" in order to gain her attention and approval.. and women don't want this trade off. They want you to be who you are, even if they don't like it.
It's very attractive to meet a guy who's honest about being an asshole. But, ultimately, women will avoid you if you're all about yourself.
Second - be honest and sincere. If you're dating online because you just want to hook up, be honest about it. It'll filter out the girls who don't want that.
If you're dating online to meet super cute girls who are fun to hang out with, then say that.
Third - being attractive online requires that you have standards she has to meet... not the other way around. It's not your job to meet her requirements... she'll figure that out for herself... not you. Your job is to make sure she measures up to yours. So always have that mindset... "is she fun enough? Is she cute enough?"
Be the chooser. Not the other way around. And women will automatically start interacting with you VERY differently. When you're acting like the chooser (like you're a super model who's deciding who to pick) she'll automatically feel like you have more value then other guys.
I'm not saying you should be a d***, just be picky. Think like a beautiful woman - be picky. Embrace your own value and own it.
And women will respond.
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