Why is it that the nicest girls, being some of the best thing this world has to offer, often end up with the biggest scum bags ever?
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bc the scum bags are often the only ones with the guts to flirt with her, ask her out, act manly around her, etc.
the nice guys usually think she's out of their league, aren't confident enough to show a fun personality around her, come off as way too needy or self-pitying, are too scared to ask her out, expect her to initiate everything, act like a doormat around her, put her on a pedestal, use weird creepy passive aggressive tactics to try to get her to like them, disregard her desire to be physically attracted to a guy (and therefore just call her shallow when she's not into them because they don't work out etc), oh I could go on and on :/
but the bottom line is, most girls don't WANT a scumbag, but we end up with them because we'd rather date a guy who we are physically and emotionally attracted to than a guy we are NOT attracted to. is that so hard to understand?
i mean, we're not attracted to their badness, we're attracted to their confidence and looks. it's just that most bad guys tend to be confident where most nice guys aren't.
i find it extremely hypocritical of a lot of guys to call hot girls shallow for wanting hot guys, when these guys who don't work out, get cool haircuts, dress cool, and act confident aren't doing anything to make themselves hot, yet expect these hot confident girls (who often put plenty of time and effort into their own appearance, physique, clothes, makeup, hair, and personality) to want them!
The truth is, what we want is a nice, confident, hot guy, but when we can't find one, we settle for 2 our of 3. We'd rather have a hot confident mean guy than a nice ugly insecure guy.
And until the insecure ugly nice guys stop going for the confident hot girls, then they have no right to complain.2