Do Tinder relationships actually last?

[Anonymous]

[Alan180188]

I met with at least 10 girls over tinder, dated 4, slept with only 2 out of all so far !
the 4 I dated contained one crazy bipolar girl (which was about to cause me huge problems and miss up my life) and one girl which was so hot in sexting yet in real life was pushing and delaying (apparently she was using the sexting to make me go out with her only) the other two one I slept with two times then decided to cut it off since It was a rebound sex and I was still not over my ex, the last one I'm with her right now for 5 months so far is so nice, we are comfortable together and honest plus far from eachother so it's more like a no strings attached relationship, we meet over weekends go out and have fun and then amazing sex, no questions asked no commitments !
the other 6 I met one time didn't like cause were either so insecure or sensitive, or get offended when mentioning sex !

Dear ladies, life is simple so are opinions and answers, tinder is known as a "hot dating" app, either don't use it if you're looking for a real emotional relationship, or at least don't judge the guy if he didn't want it when you meet him !

[Nielctz]

From my personal experience many of them are just people looking for a hookup or attention. You do get the odd few users that are actually on there to be serious, but judging by some of the pictures these people use in their profiles I would assume they're the minority.

[lyannamormont]

I have had three friends, 2 close friends, and 1 I used to date, I met at school but we decided to stay friends as he is a single dad and I couldn't really get along with the kid.

All three of them have relationships lasted more than 3 years. The guy is currently married to his Tinder date, and 2 of my close friends are living together and both are getting married next summer.

My longest Tinder relationship was about 7-8 months. It didn't last because he was not mature and he was more into "grass is greener, there will be always a better match" and wanted to play the field so i ended it.

It can last if both parties are mature and sincere enough to put efforts into getting to know one another without thinking online dating is BS.

[lyannamormont]

by the way, we met on Tinder but later found out that we had 99.8 % match on OKCupid based on like 1000 something questions. I don't feel horrible about it ending, but it's his loss because we had the vibe. Don't miss out on something because it's Tinder or online dating. If you think the person is right, don't swipe further to see what other options you have.

[elswilson199]

It seems that a lot of the older people have negative things to say about tinder. This is either because they can't find anyone or they're not used the advancement of technology. There's a lot of younger people on it and it honestly does work you just have to be persistent. I dated a guy for 5 months on it and it was going serious and the guy I'm with now I met on it and it's pretty serious. It's how you want to treat it. It may have the slogan of 'hook up' but that's only if you treat it that way.

[Anonymous]

Depends. People use the app for different things. My boyfriend amd i have been together for two years and have even discussed marriage, we met on tinder.

But on that same note im currently getting texts from a friend who is all upset because she got feelings for one of her tinder fuck buddies and it turns out he had a girlfriend the whole time.

[crotchwood]

I like the concept of tinder, requires effort from both sexes.
I have yet to find a real match yet, a lot of spam bots on there and girls that just want more instagram followers.
But I'm hopeful that with mutual attraction and shared interests displayed upfront, that is very possible to find a lasting relationship

[Electric_Dreams]

A tinder relationship is not a type of relationship. Types of relationships include:-
- Monogamous relationship
- Open relationship
- Platonic relationship
- Purely sexual relationship

Unless by "tinder relationship" you are referring to an open relationship in which each of the partners is using tinder to find other sex partner while maintaining some kind of sexual relationship with the individual they are perceived to be in a relationship with.

[RachelleDraws]

Not from what I've seen. Tinder relationships are based on lust, not love. Dating someone because you find them attractive isn't okay. For a relationship to work, you need love.

[elswilson199]

Disagreed. Meeting someone in person is Purley based on attraction and lust. A lot of people go on dating sites to find something serious because they can't find it elsewhere. And you actually get to know them and can speak to them for however long before meeting them. So a lot of it does actually go on personality before the initial meet.

[Kkaos]

@elswilson199 That's completely false. There is no such thing as a 'tinder relationship'. Tinder is simply an app for meeting people, same way as you might people in the street, at work, in clubs etc. And relationships are completely about attraction, love spawns from attraction.

[RachelleDraws]

@elswilson199 That's only if you actively look for people. When I met my girlfriend, sure I found her hot, but that wasn't the only reason I was drawn to her. It was finding out her interests and personality that made me fall for her. The relationship started on love and has always been love. Compare this to 'Tinder relationships' where the relationship starts on lust. This is also why relationships that spawn from causal sex go south so quickly.
What's more, on sites like tinder, due to there being so many people, you're spoilt for choice. This puts people in the mindset of "If this relationship isn't perfect, there are plenty of other people I could choose from" rather "I'll better myself for the good of my relationship"

[elswilson199]

Not everyone on tinder though is there for just attraction. That's just pessimistic thinking. And no having the mind set of there's plenty more people out there is better than thinking you'll be alone so I'm not really sure about your point there.

[RachelleDraws]

@elswilson199 That way of thinking isn't necessarily a conscious thing. For example, let's say you have five choices, but you can only pick out one. Now let's say you've given 5 choices, but if you don't like those choices, you're allowed to be given another five. With this, you will naturally think, "These seem good, but what if there's something I like more?" This is what I'm talking about.

[revo620]

My first relationship was on tinder and she broke my my heart good. the relationship only lasted 1 month but i thankfully didn't lose my virginity to her. Its been 6 months but I'm still not ready to get back into it because I really liked her but she was shopping for someone else! She couldn't even give a good reason to breakup with me but I knew she was shopping.

[Blest_Apollo]

There will always be cases where these things work. If you want to try it then try it. Be warned as many people are usually looking for hookups

[laurencechelt]

Well I know of a couple who met on tinder and lasted... but all my attempts haven't lasted. Youve got to be good looking to win at dating apps

[Berserk117]

Never have i ever read or seen a story of a LTR from Tindr, Tindr is mostly for hooking up

[RandomBritishGuy94]

If people used Tinder the way it was planned they would have a chance. It's not any different to walking up to someone in a shop and asking them out.

[Pink1996]

Yeahh one of my friends met her current boyfriend on Tinder and they've been together for 3 years now also they're getting engaged in April

[StephenCF]

I personally haven’t dated anyone on Tinder yet (despite using it a long time), but a friend of mine met her boyfriend through the app & dated for as long as 3 years

[leifleoden]

Probably not. In my former life I would just spam the like button and then make the moves on the most attractive people who liked me back. Never met anyone that I really hit it off with that way.

[TheButterfly]

The longest I've had a tinder relationship last is 2 months but I just started in July so its possible

[TorixDurg]

Hypothetically, any relationship starting from any dating site could potentially last, but you never know.

[COCOCHANEL]

i've met decent people on tinder. i made decent money from pimping some girls.

[amarshall1921]

It's rare but they can. Communication can get interesting with a foundation like that.

[NightOwl_23]

Maybe some but, Im too ugly for any girl to want me

[Azazel-CU]

Truat me, it isn't your looks, it's your attitude.

[hammeronfire]

I've only ever seen one tinder relationship actually last.

[realistincanada]

depends. I have seen them last. it depends on the girl

[suraj0498]

That depends upon you and your match

[SirRexington]

Not from what I've seen.