My girlfriend and I broke up after two years. She loved me more than anyone I have ever been with. In the 6 to 8 months before we broke up we struggled because I worked quite a bit and we live an hour apart. She tried really hard and even wanted to move in. I hate myself for hesitating and I believe in the end that is why we broke up. I did everything to change things and realized that I was wrong so I made some changes over the next two months. We had stayed in contact talking all along so I always felt I could fix it. She slowly drifted further away and I finally realized I had let her go. I went back and showed her I had realized what was important and she understood and said she would try again but wasn't sure how her feelings were because she had spent the time trying to move on. We spent three amazing weeks together, or at least I thought. She then told me that she loves me and being with me but the feelings just weren't the same and the attraction wasn't there. At this point I was crushed but for the last month I cut all contact because she said she needed time and space to sort it all out. This past weekend I messaged her just to say I was thinking about her and she said I was on her mind too and she wanted to message me but didn't. I waited a few days and called her. We had a good conversation so I asked her to go for a coffee sometime. She said she would think about it. This morning she messaged me asking why I would want to go for coffee? She had noticed me adding girls to facebook etc and said that I shouldn't be asking her to hang out if I am talking to other girls and that it wasn't fair to the other girls. I just said not to worry about that and if she wants to hang out we should. Later in the conversation she mentioned going on a few dates but they were boring. I just shrugged it off even though it kills me. At the end she stressed that us meeting was just as friends and that she is happy right now and isn't looking for another relationship. So now I am confused because she is going on dates? I guess I know that our first date needs to just be fun but I have no idea where she is at and if there is any hope here at all...any thoughts?
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Sounds like you both still have feelings for each other. Regardless of what she's saying, if she's tracking the girls you add on FB she's obviously still got feelings for you. But I'm sure she needs time to figure out what's right for her. She probably has indeed gone on dates but that doesn't mean you aren't the one on her mind. I don't know how long you were together but clearly you aren't over each other. I would say don't label the meeting as a date. Just take it as hanging out or coffee. By calling it a date that will set you up for "expectations". She'll end up expecting you to act like a boyfriend again even though you aren't together. Take things slow for now but definitely communicate with each other. Hopefully this will end in a reunion. Either way keep communication open and be clear with each other about what your relationship is so you both have a better idea of what to expect or not. Good luck.0