When I go to the bar I wind up with a number or guys flirting with me, and trying to buy me drinks. Most of them start by trying to grind me on the dance floor, that scares me. I'm not that type of girl, I don't believe in one night stands. I have integrity, but I'm worried the world just sees me as a slut. I'm 19 years old, 5 feet 6 inches tall, about 127 pounds and have brown hair and hazel eyes. A fair number of guys have called me pretty, but I have a hard believing it since no one seems to want even a casual relationship, or to even go out on dates. My personality well I talk to much, but am quiet and shy around the guys I'm really attracted to. I'm always trying to make friends with everyone around me, but only people older than me seem to continue conversations with me. It's scary how do I turn things around and become likable to my peers, and get dates?
Most Helpful Girl
Bars and clubs are horrible places to get dates. I have tried everything from dressing nicely but not provocatively, ignoring sexual innuendos, carrying nice conversations and just overall trying to avoid anything that makes it appear that I am a good time girl, and pretty much I have found, most guys go to clubs in search of a good time, not a girlfriend. Keep in mind, some of these guys could be great if you met them in a different setting, but they have this crazy idea that meeting a girl in a club is a recipe for insta-sex.
It seems we are in the midst of a time where guys are really enjoying and looking for no-strings sex and FWB and, apparently, finding a lot of opportunity for it too. It is frustrating for a girl who wants to date and have a relationship. All I can say is you need to "next" the inappropriate guys and jerks until you find one that is sincere. It has taken me two years of pretty steady dating to find my boyfriend. I am attractive and even with that, I mainly find guys are looking for casual situations. Hang in there.