It just seems like everyone makes it seem easy and I am so scared of doing it.
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Pay attention to me.
I'll give you the best advice I wish I got when I was your age...
1) Being shy is all about your ego. Yes, it's true. Nothing wrong with that, it simply makes you human.
Your ego has a definite image of you and when you interact with others they might challenge that image. Your ego never wants to be challenged so it does things to make you avoid others. It's really that simple.
You first goal should be to conquer your ego. Go read some books. I suggest anything by the Dahli Lama.. he talks a lot about how our ego is useless and how to shed it. I would also suggest Don Ruiz... The 4 Agreements. Great book on getting rid of feelings like rejection, fear, etc.
2) Not everything can be learned in a book, some things need to be learned through expereince in through your body.
You need to show your body and your emotions that you will survive the interactions with other people, even if they hate you and disagree with you.
I suggest you do what every who's a natural with women has done: learn how to be as social as possible.
The easiest way to get good with women is to get good with people. Learn to make small talk with everyone you meet, everyday for the rest of your life, and your body will quickly adapt. You will quickly learn what things are funny, and what things are boring. Which things people like talking about (themselves) and what things they hate (you talking about you.)
This means you need to practice making small talk with the fat guy bagging your groceries, and the tall skinny chick working the movie ticket booth. You need to learn how to ask that super hot waitress where she bought her earrings because you sister would love them, and how to ask that old woman behind you in line if that frozen pizza is as good as it looks.
The idea is to NOT start trying to pick up super hot women... that's too big a leap. Instead you need to start learning that talking with strangers can actually feel good. And that talking with people will not hurt.
Unless you're willing to put in the effort, you'll remain stuck in your home-made prison of fear and worry.
3) One last thing... life isn't about hoping people like you. You will get along fine through this life even if everyone hates you. There are convicted pedophiles living around you already, who are getting married and such. The goal isn't to be a "NICE" guy, the goal should be how to be a "GOOD" guy. There's a huge difference.
Being nice is often about seeking approval. But being good is about liking yourself and those you interact with, without expecting it in return. That's the type of guy people are attracted to.
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