I have known this guy for over a month. We met on craigslist. I put a personal ad out there and he responded. We hit it off pretty good. We went on one date and it went very well. After the date he text me and said thank you for a great night. We continued to talk over text for the next couple of weeks. He was at work and said he wanted to stop by after he got off in the morning. I felt ok with that. So he came over and things got alittle heated if you know what I mean. So after we did what we did, right after he left he said I was amazing. I noticed communication was a bit different after we had sex. I had asked him the day after we had sex what he was looking for exactly, he said he wanted a LTR but wants to take it low. He still continued to talk to me, saying hey beautiful and all that, but its just been different. I started to be alittle more open with him telling him that I don't wanna scare him but that I really like him but I can respect the fact that he wants to go slow. He wrote back saying " I get alittle nervous sometimes but I know you mean well". I really don't know what he means by that. This past week we have had some good communication but its now Sunday and I have really not heard from him since Thursday. He had surgery last week but it was a minor thing. I texted him yesterday and said "just thought I would say hi, I haven't really heard from ya the last couple of days" He text back an hour later saying "Hey sorry hanging with the family" It seems like I always text him at a bad time so I wrote back saying " lol once again I text you at a bad time, well have fun!" Then he wrote back "Sorry." I don't know if he is still into me or not. Its just weird we we from talking everyday up until recently. I don't know what I did or maybe I am over reacting. Maybe he really is spending a lot of time with the family since he off of work right now, I know he is very close with the family. But I don't know what to do. Should I wait till contacts me? What do you think maybe went wrong? If he wasnt interested in me after sex, why would he keep in touch with me? Now all the sudden I don't hear from him for the last couple days. I need some advice. I feeling pretty crushed right now.
Most Helpful Guy
Well, there's a couple of things I noticed here as a guy/male.
I get alittle nervous sometimes but I know you mean well"
I'll break this statement down for you, and other women ok.
"I get a little nervous sometimes" This means either your coming on too strong for his likeing/or he is Shy and you just don't realize it, and is just getting nervous because he hasn't been with many girls/women, and it gets his nerves all worked up, meaning you intimidate him/scare him in a totally different way than you may think. Guys are often times scared of women because of the Unknown, the Unknown of what not to, or what to do. Also, it may be his first time with a women which beleive it or not can be scary/nerve racking especially if he gets sexual, it can even mess up his sexual performance with you! Which might scare him even more, he maybe doesn't want to go too fast, or maybe doesn't want to be so freaked he has a hard time keeping into it/focusing.
"But I know you mean well."
This means, he's telling you that He's not looking down on you for your strong approach to him. It's him saying Your coming on strong to me Yes. Although, I'm not taking offense to it. So. There you go.
Just don't forget Guy's do sometimes get very nervous. We are just as nervous as you are, and sometimes more depending on his Past experiences with previous Women that may have done him wrong.
Hence his wanting to possibly, "Take it slow."
This may be a way to just make you think that and use you for sex who knows.
2 days to Two weeks is not enough time for that to show. Yes, I think you are overreacting. He has other people in his life other than you never forget that, I'm sure you have others in yours as well. If he's spending time with his family that is fine. Atleast he's not with the prostitute down the street cheating on you. Be greatfull for what you have, not what you don't have. Give it time, take your time, in the end you'll know which it is. Give it ample time how ever much it needs. Honestly, if he is texting you while with family, and saying Muah to you. I think he's interested yes, he's just busy. Just remember give him space when he needs it, so when you need it he should respect that as well. This doesn't mean just take space because he did. We are not Children here. We are adults. If you honestly need it that's one thing, being childish is another, I.E. Paybacks. He'll look down on you for that, and rate you accordingly because of it.
Good luck, sounds like everything will go fine just GO WITH THE FLOW and see what happens and don't forget to UPDATE this when you learn more!0