I recently went on dates with two guys I met online. Before this, I hadn't been on a date with someone who wasn't already my boyfriend; both my boyfriends were people I got to know at work/school, had crushes on, and then started going out with, with no dates. This seems like the normal and natural course of a relationship to me.
My problem is that I went on dates with these two guys I met online, and everything went fine. They were both sweet, reasonably attractive good guys, we had things to talk about, and we got along. But I don't feel the "magic" that I felt with previous boyfriends who I had gotten to know first. Is that something I should be looking for on a first date? Or does that feeling develop after several dates, once you get to know a person?
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This happened to me too recently. I went on a date with a girl that I thought would be a good future girlfriend. I didn't really feel any "sparks" or anything. After that I pretty much gave up on her and intended to just be friends. Besides that I met another girl and without a single date I already felt that "spark." We're going on a date this weekend, but I think we both know we already like each other it's just we're not going to commit to a relationship yet.
So to answer your question. Personally I think feelings are there if they are there. I don't think they magically appear. If you dated and you enjoyed it, but didn't really feel anything, then maybe they aren't the right guys. And I think dating before a relationship is natural, especially for young adults, but that "spark" is also natural so you'll know when they're the right person. Every time I have felt that "spark" it has been pretty early on.0