I am 34 years old and better than average looking. Not a supermodel but very tall, long legs and in shape. I constantly have men coming on to me very strong and wanting my number wanting to monopolize my time. Then I don't hear from them or they ask me out for a certain day and they don't get ahold of me to confirm. I don't understand what I could be doing wrong. The one hint I have is that 3 men have told me they thought I was looking for a relationship which is not true (just divorced). I sometimes think that because I don't act like a slut they think I want them to be my "man" when really I just want some mature companionship that leads to sex but doesn't get serious.
Help me please
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there is a ratio of 48% men to 52% women (its just nature, more women are born and survive than men). When your young, and no one is in relationship this tiny difference between the ratios isn't noticable; but when everyone gets married and couples up the ratio changes.
Allow me to explain. Imagine an island with 100 twenty year old people on it. The ratio rule says there are 48 men and 52 women. Wait 10 years then the population of the island are all in their 30's. Most have coupled up. So lets say 44 of them have coupled up i.e there are 44 couples on the island.
So that leave 4 single men and 8 single women! The blokes have got it made with twice as many girls, there's little compertition.
Now also consider that the 4 single men are the difficult ones that none of the other women wanted. They're happy and comfortable with being single and are now enjoying their possition of power in realtionships. Being able to pick and chose the women they want.
.and that's your situation.
I'm not saying that you can't find Mr Right, but it will be more difficult when your older. It is true; a good man is hard to find. As a 34 year old you will have to work harder than when you were 24. Also I don't know when you got married, but things could have changed. I think its now acceptable for a woman to ask out a man or to approach a man. Try think about your tactic?1