I'll try to keep this short.
I have been out with this guy a couple of times. We really enjoy each others' company, and aside from a slightly awkward moment on our first date, it's been pretty great.
We are not "officially" dating though. I know if it were up to him, we would be, but he's respecting my decision (or lack of decision?) to wait on it.
I don't know why, but I am extremely uncertain of making it official. I can't figure out why that is either. He is a very sweet, caring guy, and we get along so well and are so similar. But sometimes when we're together (and in public) I feel very aware of everyone around me. And I feel like people are judging us because we're together or something.
It's weird, and I don't get it at all.
Could this all just be because I've never been in a relationship before, and I'm just too comfortable being by myself?
Part of me is saying to definitely go for it, because what if no other guy ever shows interest. But then another part is saying don't be stupid, you're still young, there are plenty of other guys out there.
I'm sorry this kind of jumped around, but I guess what I'm asking is, is it normal to feel this way, right before the potential start of a relationship? And do any of you have any advice or thoughts on this?
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Never jump into a relationship or pronouncement of officially dating because you may fear no other guy will show interest and you better take what you have now. I get the fact that you honestly don't believe this is your last chance and also you are comfortable being single. However, to me, when you feel this uncertain about someone, it means that the chemistry is not there for the two of you to go the distance and you are better off not dating him further.
Sweet and caring just isn't enough to qualify anyone for relationship status. You probably just don't know what it is that will float your boat, but I know when you find it, you will not hesitate in recognizing your feelings for that guy.1