I've been on 7 or 8 dates with this girl and have already established that I like her. I can tell that she is interested in return but since day one has told me she doesn't call guys and likes them to be the pursuer. The problem with that is that I'm doing all the calling and some times she doesn't answer. How do I know she's mutually interested if she never calls because of her "rule"? I feel really dumb calling when she doesn't answer and sometimes don't leave a message because there's really nothing I want to say just chat and maybe ask her on another date. How often do girls like to be called when your dating and how often shall you go on dates. I'd like to see her every day if I could. I'm willing to do whatever I have to do not to screw this one up!
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At this point, she is probably testing you. If your assumption is right, and she does like you, then she is just testing to see how much she really means to you, and what you would do to get her attention.
Dont worry if she doesn't call back, or never calls you. It really doesn't mean anything.
When you call and she doesn't answer, maybe she is, not in the mood to talk, or "chit chat".
What you can do is, have a purpose to call her. So when she answers and asks whatsup, you actually have something to say. Instead of, "Oh nothing ---". She likes you, but she assumes you're calling to talk about "nothing", so she decides to do other stuff instead. Or, she could just be acting like she's busy, so you would go crazy wondering whatsup with her, which is -- obviously working right now. But if you start calling with something important to say or ask, then whenever you call she will think, she has to pick up.
Also, when you ask her out, don't make it a last minute thing, just yet. Make sure to ask a couple of days in advance. Girls like to know that guys are planning things for them, and the waiting time just makes the date so much more special.
Some excuses for calling her:
I was wondering if you would like to see this movie sometime. It is showing this week. --
Me and my friends are going to (place) tonight, would you like to join us? Id love for you to. --
You mentioned you were looking for a (thing), and I happened to see it at (place), want me to pick you up so we can check it out? --
I ordered a family size pizza, was wondering if you wanted some --
Im heading to (place), was wondering if you need anything there --
They might sound lame, sorry, but that is all I can think of right now.
Try not to call her too much, unless you have a reason too. I know you miss her, and would like to see her everyday, but girls like her require a lot of time, and effort. So, good luck, and don't give up :)