Not knockin' on the ladies, but I'd prefer the guys' take on this.
What defines an evening as a date? What does it involve in your case?
And, do you often declare it as a date beforehand while requesting her company, or does it just happen?
Thanks in advance :)
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I think anything that's involved on a one on one, is considered a date; but there are varying levels of commitment and intention, as well as emotion. So whether it would be breakfast, lunch, dinner, stroll in the park, night out / in at the movies, if it's just the two of you, then I would consider it a date. The activities don't really come in determining if it's a date or not (generally I'm saying), but conversation and interaction will be a big give away. e.g. personal information being shared, contact, awkward silences etc, are tell tale signs of it really being a date.
I'm not a big fan of labels to be honest, but when it comes to dating, I think you really need one. Otherwise both parties could be thinking on different wavelengths, and as a result, someone is going to end up disappointed, if not both of you. It's better to know, rather than assume; at least in this instance.
Actually, to set the record straight, half way through the get-together, I would jokingly ask, "So this is a date right?" Depending on the response, I employ some damage control, to avoid embarrassment. If it's a yes, then it's all clear (if that's what you want it to be). But if it's a no, I jokingly say, "Whoa, that's a bit awkward, this is not a date? I'm seriously cut..." and then just to make it like more of a casual conversation, rather than an ultimatum (trying to reduce the awkwardness), I would shoot off a conversation about things you do or don't on a (first) date.0