I've been out with a guy 5 times and we have a great time. We've been pretty intimate the last 2 times. The problem is that I don't hear from him in between dates, unless he's calling to set up the next date. So, I basically don't talk to him for ~ a week until the next date. What would you make of this? Should I assume that he's just not that into me? Or that he wants to have no strings attached/ get closer, etc.? I'm very frustrated and plan to bring this up the next time (if) I see him. What would you do/think?
Disconnect in between dates?
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Ok, well if yall went out like 1-2 times or so and he didn't contact you then that would be normal. But 5 times and he doesn't do as much as send you a text or anything? Well if he wasn't into you he wouldn't ask you out again. I know that guys don't like to talk on the phone and get nervous talking on the phone to a girl they like so maybe this is him, or he could be busy or something. Yeah bring it up the next time you see him, if yall want to be closer yall are going to have to start having some contact whether its by even just an email! Say like, "hey you know maybe you should start calling me some " or just maybe send him a text like, "Hey boy, was just thinking about you. Hope to see you soon!" to be flirty and maybe start some contact. If he didn't like you he wouldn't be calling you on dates so I don't think it's that he doesn't want to be closer because dates can lead to closeness. Maybe he is just like that and is not a phone person and gets nervous on the phone like some guys do. He could also not know what to say. Maybe he doesn't know how you feel about him, whatever the reason you need to just tell him to call/text you or something
How old is the guy? and when you have gone out in the last 5 times, does he ask about how you been the whole week? does he show any interest at all? Now, I would understand maybe if for the first 2 dates, he didn't call; but the fact that youve gone out on 5 and you've been intimate 2 times and he doesn't call, it does give the appearance that he's more interested in a physical relationship;Ive done this type of behavior wiht my friend with benefits. However, I t could also be that he thinks that maybe you're busy and he doesn't want to bother you. I do know some guys don't like talking on the phone much so it could also well be that he is one of those guys that thinks he only calls during emergencies, not to socialize. And have you called him during the week yourself?
He's 35. The last time I called him (the day after a date), I called twice and each time he did not answer and I didn't leave a message. I had also emailed him to thank him for the date earlier and said it would be nice to hear from you soon. Yes, I know, too many times for me to contact him. But in any case, he didn't call back. He just responded to my email saying that he saw that I called but he was playing the guitar with his friend. And that he hopes I have a good week. That is all!
I think you scared him a bit, calling twice and then sending an email. They think "they" are the one who are supposed to do the pursuing . they like when girls are direct and leave a message , but to not leave a message and then call again makes them think you are insecure i think
Maybe he doesn't like to talk over the phone. If you're into him maybe you should start seeing each other more often than a week apart.