?He is 15 years younger then I am..We met on a dating site and we had 11 months of passion and hate mixed together.. He told me he loved me and that I was the first woman he ever loved..(I am an ex model)..I was vulnerable...just came out of a long and meaningless marriage..
He lives two hours away and we communicate by skype and text..When things were fine he used to come to a hotel here in my town on weekends..
My problem is that he became extremely posessive.. I had to delete a lot of male friends of facebook for him.I did not mind because he seemed to love me a lot...after our last fight I deleted him off facebook..he then deleted his own profile..
In the past when I became angry with him and if I did ignore him for half a day he used to be completely hysterical..calling my landline 20 times..leaving dozens of text messages.He even threatened suicide if I ever left him.
Our last fight was about three weeks ago..I accused him of seeing somebody else because he was acting strangely..sometimes I could not get hold of him for hours on end..He then seemed to break contact with me..I became extremely depressed because I still love him a lot and all my attempts since then seemed to fail..Suddenly he was not there for me anymore..His text messages were short and abrupt..He came on skype now and then but did not want to put the cam on..
Yesterday he came online and for half an hour we had the best conversation we had in three weeks..He asked me how I was. He told me we can cam later during the evening and we chatted about all kinds of things..it felt like the old days when things were good..When I tried to contact him later the evening he was uncontactable...This morning he came online and told me he fell asleep..He would not go on cam and he was back to answering only abruptly and in one word phrases..When I mentioned that I was back on a dating site because we seem to be over..and I feel lonely.. he became terribly nasty telling me I will NEVER see him again and he called me a SLUT etc...He also said that he hopes someone takes me off his hands and that I text too much and that he wants to delete me out of his life.
He however promised we can go on skype tonight after midnight when he gets home from wherever he is going...I have texted him about five times this afternoon asking if he wil deffinately be on because in the past I have especially stayed awake to talk to him and then he never came online...He has not answered any of my text messages..what must I do? Does he still love me..because I know I miss and love him still.. Is he only playing games..I am confused and I do not know what to think anymore.
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I think he loves you very much, but SOMETHING has him insecure! When he's mean to you, he's hurting & scared of losing you, so he's being all tough & trying to convince himself he can do without you, but unsuccessfully. One day when you have him chatting & things are good, just be like, I'm not trying to start problems, but did I hurt you? Can we talk about it? I get the impression that he'd be someone up to that, & maybe you can straighten this out. But, if his insecurities keep going unchecked it will tear y'all apart. Sounds like it already is. (you're both hurting) I hope it works out...0