I'm starting to not understand a lot of things...
I'm a very attractive college student, friendly, great smile, have plenty of friends and a super fun job. I'm the nice girl that keeps everyone smiling. I have had only one boyfriend but he was 2 years ago. He was the type I'm sure every girl has met, the type that takes advantage of your sweetness. hmm... when I was younger I was pretty shy around boys, I would blush when my crush smiled at me, was never the boy crazy type. As I got older I have made many guy friends. Really just friends, the kind that you would consider my brothers. These guys will punch out any jerk for me, and they were ready to punch out my ex.
My dad knows that my best friends are guys and that we play football, video games, joke around alot. Well one day my dad suggest that I should be dating and have a boyfriend. I am 21 years old and I should grow up a bit. Its only normal for girls my age to be into guys. Maybe my dad was afraid that I am gay. I know I am not gay, I just have not met a guy who is boyfriend material yet. Besides guys end up being my brothers anyway. So.. I decided that the next time I get a chance, I will not treat a guy like he is my friend, I will treat him like a romantic interest. And I have gotten some phone numbers, been out to lunch a couple of times, but there was no luck. I'm no good at flirting! The guys were okay but I have already placed them in the friend position. These guys were definitely interested in me at first but maybe I came off as complicated.
I also have 2 best girl friends. One is married and the other is pretty flirty I guess. I did have another best girl friend but she ended up being a jerk, she knew how to talk to guys too. One day I say to my friend (the former friend) "im having no luck with this dating thing" and she says "maybe you should stop dating then" I didn't understand how that was suppose to help when she is on the phone flirting 24/7 and it seems that I have no practice. I say the same thing to my married friend and she says "you are only 21 you have plenty of time to meet a guy, you don't have to meet him right now" She was right so I stopped thinking about guys, dating, relationships for awhile until today when I decided to write this. I was talking with my other girl friend today and she says "i want to meet a better guy" and I jokingly say "we should meet guys together" and then later on I'm talking to my guy friend and I tell him "i don't know how I can help her meet a guy, I can't even meet one myself" and my guy friend says "what if you just stop dating?"
I don't understand why I should take this advice when it seems that no one else is. Everyone should just be single and fine too right? I'm so confused now. Why is it so easy for some to be in a relationship or even just a fling? I'm a catch and I would like to catch a catch but wouldn't all the catches be taken if they are such catches?
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not all catches would be taken...many people date for the wrong reasons..which usually ends in heartbreak and regret...so no you shouldn't give up dating...you should just date for the right reasons...many people I know, including myself are good looking etc..but we don't have gf's because we are focussed on getting other things right first..so it depends what kind of catch you want..
having said all of this I think that you shouldn't give up dating...but you should date for the right reasons in order to attract the right guy..what I mean by that is if you want to date guys to just be a girl that has a bf...then most likely that's the type of guy you will attract..but it seems like you only want to date because other people want you to date and that's not what you really really want atm..
hope it makes sense
thats just what I personally think :)0