I kissed another guy while I was away. I have been with my boyfriend now for seven months. We are seven hours away from each other but we see each other every second week and spend lots of time together. I have had trust issues with him but he told me if he ever cheated on me he would just tell me. He tells me he loves me but I can't trust anyone. He has all these girls on MySpace and even when we had broken up and gotten back together, he put that he was single. I told him it hurt me and he changed it back to in a relationship. I was so hurt from the way he was acting that even though everything was good between us while I was away, I kissed another guy. I liked this other guy, but I love my boyfriend. Should I tell him, or just break it off with him? I'm so confused, I'm a beautiful smart and really kind girl. I didn't mean to kiss this guy but I don't regret it. All I want is to know that my boyfriend loves me. I need reassurance constantly and I never would have kissed that guy if I was reassured my boyfriend only wants me. I really do love him, he told me while I was away on the phone that he wants to start a family with me and he really does love me and care for me.
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Hey I think you should work on loving yourself more, and being more confident and secure in yourself. If you feel you can't trust anyone you should explore why and figure out how it would be possible for you to build trust with someone.
(I believe trust shouldn't be given it should be built, but once it's established you should trust that person until you have reason otherwise)
What happens if you guys get married and you don't get constant reassurance and get insecure and cheat on him and you find out he did nothing wrong?
It sounds like he told you how he feels, and whenever you expressed yourself (about the myspace thing) he acted right. Be skeptical about people but until you have a reason to leave him and kiss another guy you shouldn't have.
Everyone makes mistakes, so don't be too hard on yourself, just forgive and love yourself and learn from them.
You have to tell him the truth, since he promised he would tell you. You can't base a relationship on lies and insecurity, you should tell him what happened and how you feel, and try to go constructively from here. You may have to learn from this though.
If you don't resolve your trust issues and reassurance issues now, they will haunt you in future relationships.
Be as constructive as you can, sometimes though, breakups are necessary to begin healing oneself.0