Me and this guy dated on and off from April-June. Something happened and we ended up splitting. We've been on and ff ever since then. We'll go a month without talking and then he'll randomly text me. And then my friends will get involved (they don't like him) and he will end it again. Well, recently, on thanksgiving, he texted me. I ended up chilling with him that Saturday all day (he asked me too) and everything was good. I texted him the next day and we were talking, and then I texted him on his birthday (that Tuesday) and said happy birthday, he replied saying thanks, but that was all. And then this past weekend he ended up texting me and was being like "please come see me!" and stuff like that so I ended up chilling with him o Sunday. But after I left this house, I didn't text him. I wanted him to text me. So Monday went by and we didn't talk either. I ended up texting him "hey" on Tuesday but he hasn't replied. It's not Friday. Should I go ahead and text him again, or just wait for him? Or what to do I do in general? He likes me. He tells me he does and then he begs to hang out with me, and then we do, afterward we go for a bit without talking.. He told me when we first started talking again that he had another girl he was talking to, but he didn't think they'd work out. I dunno, please give me some opinions.
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From the sounds of it, I think your playing with someone who has no intention of making a commitment. You mention he has another girl he was talking to- well there's your answer into whether or not you should pursue him.
You have placed yourself in a hurtful relationship and now you are doing nothing short than playing with fire. He has not only you, but other women as well. The relationship has been thrown into his court and now he has it that when he wants you, he'll have you. Hence, why he only texts you when he wants and when he does, it is only to tell you to see him. Have you noticed he has put little to no effort to seeing you? He can't even text you when you initiate contact.
You have also mentioned your friends do not approve of him. You must take a reality check and look closely as to WHY they don't like him. Your friends must play a key role in your relationships because they often times see things you do not. Your friends want nothing less than the best for you and they know what truly makes you happy, so take their advice and wishes to heart.
I think this relationship will only lead to future pain and it is best you let it go. He has chosen to date you, among other girls, so he truly does not respect your feelings or wishes. If he has you in his life, why keep other girls within arms reach? I think he is beginning to manipulate you because he knows he can.
You can flip the table and put the ball in your court, if you wish, by simply ignoring him. Play hard to get- don't see him when he wants you to. Don't answer his calls right away, let him chase you. This will get him more than anything. Do not initiate contact, instead, let the phone ring and answer later that night or the next day. By him doing this to you, you can see firsthand how playing hard to get really works.
However, I don't think pursuing him or this relationship is worth it. I'd say move on, date other people who are much more respectful of your time and emotions. Your young and beautiful so find someone who does not play games and would be more than willing to answer your call.
Best of luck!2