So I just got home from a first date and am so shocked by how charming this guy is for his age. I usually write younger guys off thinking they'd be so immature since I've had awful luck with guys my OWN age (and older), but this one is far from immature.
Anywho, we were in a class together, ended up going for drinks one night, had a great 3 hour conversation, then this week after our final he asked me out (for tonight). He was quite secretive of what he had planned for the date and when I showed up at his place I found that he had prepared dinner and wine and everything. Obviously I was impressed -- take notes fellas ;)
But now I'm over analyzing everything. Like if I talked too much, or about the wrong things, etc. So I'm wondering what exactly makes or breaks a first date for you guys? I'm assuming that inviting a girl over to your place and taking the time to cook for her means that you're somewhat interested but what is it that even urges you to go to those lengths in the first place?
Basically, what makes you really interested or like a girl (to the point that you'd want to cook her dinner)?
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Glad you learned that age and maturity are not very well correlated.
I'm guessing that before the date, you two had already clicked in a special way. He sees something unique about you. Maybe it's something you two share in common, or something else he doesn't see every day.
That's at least one reason a guy would go out of his way to give a good impression on the first date. Of course, every guy wants to give a good impression on any first date, and some guys just try harder than others.
I wouldn't worry too much about how the first date went though, or if you did anything wrong. One thing that's almost always true is that when a guy puts that much effort into a first date, he's already hoping that there will be a second date. So rest assured that even if the date was a disappointment for him, he'll still ask you out again. While a date can go either way, guys are usually pretty quick to determine if someone is worth their time or not, and there would have to be more than mild disappointment for him to change his opinion of you. Plus he doesn't sound like the kind of guy who would throw in the towel very quickly.2