What's the difference in treatment between a housewife & a working wife towards her husband?

[TonyMetal25]

I personally think that housewives are a lot more attached to their men and maybe love them more and are proud to have REAL men who are able to hold their male responsibilities...a working wife is a girl who just love her husband but never cars to what happen to him like a housewife cause she's independent & stressed out and would never serve her man like a housewife...what's your opinion?

[Oliviawinters]

Firstly, I laughed so hard at this ridiculous question. A REAL man? Hahaha. What is this? The 18th century? So, guys who have working wives aren't real men despite them working to? And what's a real man? There's NO set responsibilities anymore and I'm sorry if that crushes you. In fact, loads of men are now house husbands and they're still REAL men.

Ok, it DOES NOT affect love at all. Love is a chemical in the brain. Love is not about serving. We are not slaves to each other. Whether she works or not does not affect love - that ridiculous! Absurd, even. We choose to be together and we choose to do things for each other. Actually, housewives are often found to be the unhappiest and marriages where both work are the happiest. Why? Everyone NEEDS independence and it's only the insecure, cowardly men who don't like they're woman working in case they earn more and actually depend on themselves. If the woman CHOOSES to be a housewife, then fair enough and well done if it makes her happy. IT DOES NOT AFFECT THE LOVE. in fact, resentment is more likely to build. Who wants they're husband stressed? Who wants to be bored sh*tless and then have they're husband whine all day? Anyway, if being a housewife works for them, fair play to them :D But love has nothing to do with it at all :) plus, both being at working sets a better example to the kids I reckon (if they choose to have any) :D x

[TonyMetal25]

well thanks for answering my ridiculous question at least I made you laugh hard, well like it or not that's me and would never change, and I'm not in the 18th century, I'm in the 16th century:D

i believe the housewife would make a perfect wife, well about why housewife are less happy then working wives, well because their never being treated as real housewives by their husbands with all love & care working wives are sad but these kind of housewives can saddest cause their being treated as slaves

[Oliviawinters]

Hahaha. Get with times and respect what a woman wants. Independence and freedom. If you can't have respect for a woman who works then you don't love her or deserve a woman in your life. My mother earns more than my dad with two businesses under her belt and they've been together 33 years :) they're also not married but very committed and often go on 3-4 holidays a year to each other. If a woman works or not does NOT affect love - that's just common sense!

[TonyMetal25]

what can I say this your life and you think different than me some will agree with you and some will agree with me and for me your wrong and for you I'm wrong so it's just a matter of an opinion and I don't want to get with the times you better stay in these times besides I don't respect many working womens cause they have no respect for themselves but I respect each women who respects her man either she's working or at home what a women wants ain't my concern in marriage I look what we both want

[Oliviawinters]

Wow, I'm sorry to be blunt you're acting awful. You don't control women. Women are slowly earning more than men. Lots of men are now house husbands. Does this intimidate you? Actually, if your wife wants to work you RESPECT her and encourage it rather than being selfish and feeding your own 16th century prejudices x

[TonyMetal25]

well it's none of your business about what I do with my wife...besides I won't reply to you anymore since you started bashing me with medieval words...you have no respect for yourself so I'll never respect you...i'm sorry that my truthful answers made you so angry what most of girls adore my dark ages thoughts...so sorry for that big crush. I wish you a nice life even you consider me as an enemy...just stay away from me & you will be always fine...take care!

[Oliviawinters]

Aw, I'm sorry. Am I intimidating you because what I'm saying isn't opinion - it's pretty much FACT! I have more respect for myself than you do for yourself or any woman. I am educated and plan on a career because I respect myself and a wonderful gentleman will respect that. You're a menace who like to crush womens freedom and keep them indoors. I sincerely hope you don't get married because you're selfish and a control freak - no where ready for marriage.

[TonyMetal25]

sorry to tell you that and I hope that you won't have a heart attack by hearing that I'm already married since 5 years and I'm living the happiest life and my wife too is from the happiest girls in the world and she knows the real me! & she told me that it's extremely rare to find someone like me & sometimes she thinks that I'm a dream, anyways please salute the LOCK NESS monstAR for me yA british gArl, t"O"ps with the p"O"ps MAN! I wanna hear your accent:D

[Oliviawinters]

You got married at 19? Haha. Clearly, your from a poorer country with a sh*tty economy who live in the 18th century as they can't afford to modernise. I love how you abuse marriage vows and only have respect for yourself. You poor man. Yep, I'm from the rich, modern country of Britian! And unlike you, I'm educated.

[TonyMetal25]

good for you, I like the way I am, & if I wasn't than why would I say I'am, the paper the news, everyday I'am but the radio won't even play my chant:)

hello richie girl, well your educated and I'm not and your coming from the 24th century "star trek-nemesis" and I'm shoe fixer for king arthur in the 10th century, your rich & I'm poor...i'm all that and I'm very happy & hope that you become happy one days miss."olivia*autumns"...anything you still want to say to unpack your rage:)

[Oliviawinters]

I'm in a relationship and very happy, thank you. I'm in a relationship with a RESPECTFUL man though, unlike you x

[TonyMetal25]

good for you, than keep him...why you keep replying to me by the way...are you going to spend your replying on me and making the replies to me your job...if your in a relationship than good for you miss.richie! :)

besides, why you always end your reply to me with the "x" symbol what does it means?:/

[Oliviawinters]

I'm on university studying to get a degree and then a career, actually.

[TonyMetal25]

good for you, aren't you BORED replying on me!

[genevieve]

I guess this question was adressed to guys. Anyways I would appriciate the comfort of being able to stay at home( and maybe even do it), but I wouldn't think of my husband less.

' working wife is a girl who just love her husband but never cars to what happen to him' Isn't that mutually exclusive? If you love someone, you obviously care about him/her.

Though I have to agree, the housewife is probably put more effort in making her husband believe she loves him(even if she doesn't) course she depends on him.

'and would never serve her man like a housewife' if you mean 'serve' by his actual meaning, then no, she wouldn't. However if your a working or house- wife has nothing to do with how much you love your husband.

Also would you really want a girls, that's only there to 'serve' you? like really?

[TonyMetal25]

of course not, I want my girl to love me a lot like I love her and that means like we are 1 heart and if something bad happened to one of us then I doubt that we would be able to live without each other but what I mean here is that a housewife is totally different then a working wife a housewife always serves her husband cause he's serving her too so their actually serving each other but each one by his/her role a husband needs his wife and a wife needs her husband then together raise their kids

[genevieve]

Ok, I can't decide if what you say incredibbly chauvinistic or cute. Anyways I don't really see where you think the difference is. Why does a working wife 'serve' her husband any less than a housewife?

[TonyMetal25]

because a housewife have all her time for her husband and family while most of working wives work from 9 to 5 and comes exhausted, so it's logical that she will never serve her husband like a housewife...why can't you decide if I'm chauvinistic or cute, if it's about serving, I already told you that they serve each other but each one by his/her role...i personally likes taking care of my wife and hate seeing her touching this dirt called money...she's like my angel!

[genevieve]

With that whole taking care of your wife and family think you sound cute, but on the other hand I think it's a lot to ask to want her to give up her independence and depend completley on you. We had this, a few decades back and what happend is that many men took advantage of that situtation. So it's really no surprise women don't feel comfortable with depending on their husbands completely

[TonyMetal25]

yea your right but that case depend on their husbands, and not all men are the same remember...so I never took advantage to it, cause it's true I'm working outside and earning money to provide for her and I'm the only person for her but don't forget that without I won't be working or being happy or wearing clean clothes or eating healthy meals..etc, it means like I'm not even living...sometimes what she does for me at home is more than what I do for her outside...ok:)

[genevieve]

I know not all men did or do, but at least you got to understand were the distrust comes from and that it's justified in parts. If you love her and treat her well then that's great. Really. but even you have to admit looking back there's a good reason for women to work. And if you love her, like you say you should give her that oppoturnity(if she wants of course only) to feel a bit more secure

[TonyMetal25]

well I never told her not to work if she insisted cause for me I don't like to force anyone, you know what? for me to see the real person's side is to let him/her do what ever they want and in this way I will be able to know how they really feel & think of me, I would tell her what I like and the rest are on her, if she will work than so be it but I won't be happy but maybe I have to accept it but a women would never be happy unless she sees her man happy...

[genevieve]

oh you'll be happy just the same don't you worry

[TonyMetal25]

no I won't actually, just the thought that's she going out and earning money will make me sad cause I'm able, why would she want to do that and I was happy being everything to her so if she wanna erase my role just to fulfill her dreams than of course I won't be happy and our love will start fading away without even realizing!

[selfishstars]

Both my partner and I work, and we both share in household responsibilities as well. I find it incredibly insulting to suggest that having a job means that I love my partner less than a woman who doesn't work. I love him deeply and the only "attachment' that I don't have to him is that I'm not financially dependent on him (and I see that as a GOOD and healthy thing). Why wouldn't I care what happens to him? Being independent and having a job doesn't mean that you're stressed out, don't love your husband as much, or don't care what happens to them.

Further, I would never want to "serve" anyone. I'm not a slave. My partner and I work together to make a good and happy life for ourselves.

[ArtistBboy]

I think it depends in how the guy is treating her.. I know that concept is bogus but think about it -> Every time I've had a good girlfriend, I showed her I cared (not just told her and ran out the door).. Everytime a girl has pleased me (emotionally/sexually/etc) was when I made her feel really good about herself.

Sometimes you just have to do right by other people even when you see/feel/think you are being wrong.. And just cross your fingers and pray.

As for the working concept, I don't think it matters either way. I think it gives the couple some space so they don't end up either hanging each other or playing out "Mr and Mrs smith".. But I don't think it really "improves" the relationship other than giving the couple a moment to dwell about the good memories / relax from the bad memories..

~ ArtistBBoy

[TonyMetal25]

your right, but sometime being working outside gives you stress and headaches that will brake your marriage into pieces cause there is no one who's comfortable and not stressed out so if you & your wife works then you both will be angry and stressed up and no one will be able to hold the other so the smallest things will become big things and unresolved and in the end causes divorce...but in the end it's a really a decision that will be taken by both & it might works out but not for me!

[ArtistBboy]

But what are you looking for after a long day of STRESSFUL work? Probably love, affection, appreciation, gratitude for what your doing, etc.. Try to relate to what she's working for and EVEN if you don't want to do so for her - realize that the woman you have, in your eyes, is one of a kind (Because she's with you, otherwise you'd move on) -> And as such, you should do those things she's looking for because you love her.

[TonyMetal25]

well, I can't say other then your reply is wonderful, that is just true, actually it's the under appreciation and looking down to the women's role in the past made most of women so hunger for revenge and to hardly trust a guy...somewhat their right but their not all the same...a girl must be smart to find a truthful & faithful guy and to fall blindly!

[ArtistBboy]

Honesty, integrity, and loyalty are the core principles of a true relationship. If you don't have those with your partner, you're in for a long haunting road of torture and agony. If you don't feel compelled to make your relationship better -> And your facing a bad situation that hasn't changed for weeks or even months -> What reason do you have to stick around? You've gotta try SOMETHING to make it better.. at least that's how I feel.

[Anonymous]

in case you haven't noticed, it is no longer 1955. in america it takes more than 1 paycheck to support a middle class household. so unless the husband is like super rich and makes more than enough money to live a comfortable lifestyle with just HIS paycheck, AFTER TAXES...both people are going to have to work out of necessity.

also have you ever thought that there are some women who actually like to leave the house and breathe fresh air instead of being trapped in a house serving everyone else all day?

[TonyMetal25]

your a girl who doesn't like taking care of your husband and family, and wants to smell fresh air in your career, well go and work...why would a man makes good with a girl who will never appreciate his hard work to make his girl comfortable and happy...most of you western girls feels that being a housewife is a trapped slave...that's a really a big issue, then asking where are all the good guys, you just kick them out and then where are they? anyways good luck in your life!

[Oliviawinters]

And you're a man who only likes taking care of HIMSELF! You only think about your needs and your discriminative, sexist, outdated ideals. If you've been raised to think this way - shame on them and if you haven't then shame on you! It takes TWO wages to support a household, not one unless you're a millionaire. Have you heard of taxes? Bills? GET REAL!

[TonyMetal25]

"@oliviasummers"LOL:))

well I don't know how things works in your country but here I can support family by my single income and I'm not a millionaire and don't have a cinema in my home or a landing zone for a helicopter on my roof, I'm just medium, thank god! a girls who's forced to work and likes to be a housewife, it's totally a different thing...i'm talking about girls who just wants to work outside cause they see work more important than family, anyways take care...

[Oliviawinters]

HYPOCRIT! Oh right, you work don't you? Therefore you're CHOOSING to put your work before your family. You shouldn't work because that's putting that in front of your family. How dare you choose work over your family? You're an absolute hypocrit and I pity your narrow mind.

[TonyMetal25]

i work for my family to fulfill their dreams as much as I can and my wife works inside the house so she provide for us as much as she can we both work but each on his/her role and our family is the 1st then comes everything...there is nothing more important than my wife and there is nothing which equals my wife, so now you see what a HYPOCRIT I'am! :)

[foreveryoung2010]

GAH OliviaWinters

Your freaking amazing :D

and I don't even know you!

[yengesi]

"what's your opinion?"

I think ... troll.

[TonyMetal25]

what does a troll means? is it that monster who throws rocks in the age of mythology game?

[Anonymous]

there is none