I've been talking with this guy I met online at a dating website. We're both mid 30's. We exchanged "headshots" and seem to have pretty good "phone" chemistry. We've even engaged in hot chat a few times. He told me that his body photos are a little old, that he's gained a few pounds but still looks pretty much the same.I don't mind that.but I think that HE thinks I'm thinner than I am because my photo showed the real "me" from shoulders up, but I cropped it so he didn't see that I'm a bit thick from my chest on down.Now, I'm a person who wants to get to know someone, but I want to be honest with him, without pointing out my "body image issues".which won't make me seem attractive if I say it like "uh, dude, I'm thick with heavy legs and a belly.but I hide it.UGH!" I've lost some weight and am working hard to lose more.(4 pants sizes) but am a 16/18 now, so I'm still a bigger gal than those skinny chicks.From my photo you can't tell I'm heavier, but I dress well, and think I'm a sexy, flirty girl, but I'm afraid to tell him.he might be turned off about my thickness, and would rather meet him and hope he likes me for me.is that so unlikely?
MEN- do you WANT all the details first with the opportunity to say no thanks?
LADIES -How much do you say to a guy you haven't met yet?
We are planning to meet, and I will try to look good for him, but I guess I can't control how he would be or not be attracted to me.
thanks, and please, no rude responses.
- Tell him outright that you are a thick girl...even tell him the dress size you wear!Vote A
- Allude toVote B
- Ask himVote C
- Have this conversation on email, so it's not as awkward on the phoneVote D
- Wait until you meet...and don't say anything. let chemistry work for itselfVote E
Most Helpful Guy
You don't necessarily have to tell him outright, it would be easier to just send him a current full photo of yourself and let the picture do the talking. Never talk down of yourself around a guy you're trying to attract because it's extremely unattractive. You have to project self-confidence and a love of self.
He definitely needs to know before you meet, that way you can weed him out if needed, without the in-person embarrassment.
Best of Luck!2
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