I have been dating this girl on and off for about 4 months. It has been really a weird relationship as she has a very troubled past. We would go out and have fun the 1st few months but all her contacts with me revolved around when and where we were going out. It seemed for a very long time, I was that person that she "used" to take her out. When we would go out, she would hold my hand, sneak in brief kisses but it never got any further.
Even when we would go home, she would just fall asleep without acknowledging my sexual desires for her. While sex usually happened naturally in my prior relationships, I found myself asking for it the 1st time in my life. She turned me down several times citing that she has yet to be comfortable with me, or that she is afraid that I would leave her after the deed like many guys did before...
A few weeks later, after repeated casual arguments and for her refusal to commit to a relationship, I left her. She waited 10 days and called me and asked if I wanted to hang out. I let my guards down and agreed to go out with her and that night was the 1st night we had sex. I honestly felt it was pity sex and she had sex with me so she can keep me close and so I wouldn't walk out on her again.
Anyways, we kept going out and got closer although she never committed to a "relationship". It felt like while she enjoyed being around me and didn't wanna lose me, she wanted to keep her options open.
It also must be noted that I am totally different (in both looks and personality) from the guys she has been with. I was probably the 1st guy she's ever been with that had a stable life. She also referred to me as "pretty boy"!
We started having sex more often (about twice a week) and her desires for me in bed kept getting better (the first few times were absolutely terrible from her end).
Last week, since she doesn't drive, she asked to borrow my car. She knows how much I cared about the car and that I would never let anyone borrow it but she insisted. I knew she had several matters to resolve that day including meetings with her lawyer, doctor and Christmas shopping and I was working all day so I couldn't drive her around. I kept saying that I still don't trust her and she assured me that no one would ride with her and that she would strictly drive it for the aforementioned reasons and would drop it off as soon as I come home. So I reluctantly relented.
She borrowed the car and pretty much texted me every hour to comfort me that she was fine.
However, an hour before she was supposed to drop it off in the evening, she called me to say that she was exhausted and that she would drop off the car in the morning. It was very suspicious but in case she wasn't lying, I sure didn't want her driving tired and in the dark considering she isn't an experienced driver.
My suspicions took the best of me and I had a friend drive me by her house a couple of miles away. My fears came true as my car wasn't there. I immediately called her and asked her whe
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Ok, first of all, the fact she has appointments with lawyers, doctors, etc, are big...HUGE red flags!
I see you are 30-35, which I'm assuming she is as well, and she doesn't have a car?! HELLO! There is a reason this chick has no car, has more lawyers and doctors than you do friends, and has to text you know she has your car!
Of course she didn't bring the car back- it's dark, PSH! Not a good driver? What, does she not have a license?! Someone that needy of a car clearly has issues. Has she not heard of public transportation, a taxi, or even some other friends who aren't working that day?!
It's amazing that when she needed your car she went above and beyond to get it, but hell, when you want your car back, she's um... no where to be found?!
It's time to pull out the cell phone and call the nonemergency line to put out the missing person alert AND stolen car. How dare she borrow your car! If she respected your wishes and knew that you don't trust anyone, NO ONE with your car, how dare she push you into thinking she was OK with it!
Clearly she is very manipulative and she saw the opportunity of using her tricks on you when she saw that you not only are very VERY nice, but you, unlike her sleazbag ex's, has a life together! Also, you mentioned driving her places so clearly you've gone above and beyond for this girl.
She may have just wanted to be with you consistently but not sleep with you because she had trust issues and wanted the comfort of knowing your there, but had no sexual desires for you. How easy is it for a woman to say hey, I like you, but I don't want to sleep with you, "incase you leave me".
Clearly she knew you wanted to take it a step further and had no intentions of leaving her. She is a sick woman, who craves attention and comfort, and she saw that you would give her that plus more.
You need to find your car, and when you do, cut all. I mean ALL ties with this woman. Who knows what she did with your car or what she plans on doing down the road with you. It's only a matter of time before you find out she's not only done heroin but she also plans on clearing your bank account.
Stay away my friend, if your a "pretty boy" with a car and career, then pack up the bags, change the locks, make sure you don't have STDs and leave the city. Next time, follow your intuition. If it seems shady, which it sounds like you recognized right away, save the trouble and move on. Your intuition is almost, wait no, it IS always right on. Good luck!0