My ex texted me a couple of weeks ago (after 3 months NC) and we spoke for a couple of hours, just general chit chat. She ended saying we'd hang soon. Now nothing from her since. Is she waiting for me to make the next move/initiate contact or is she just playing me? I've been doing all the things I should be doing to move on. I was making good ground until she got in touch again and now I'm feeling a little confused and don't want to get hurt all over?
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Well…she reached out after a good amount of time which is a good sign. It means that she has been thinking about you still. Though she could have had two motives. First, is an ego stroke. Second, it is because she generally would like to re open your connection. If you are willing to open yourself up to her again and think the inherent risk (of your heart) is worth this girl then this is what I would do. I would call and say, “Hey, nice to talk with you the other day. It would be great to catch up in person and was just seeing what your dance card looks like so we could grab a drink/coffee. “ Done. Nothing more. If she answers make the call short and to the point. If she doesn’t answer leave a message that is short and to the point. You cannot slighted at the least. Then wait to see if she is open to it. Do not do dinner or anything that costs a lot of time and money. Make her work and prove her way back up to nice dinners and well planned creative dates. And do not text. Texting is for the weak. You are strong and not afraid of her. Show her you are a man and won’t take any sh*t but be kind.0