so I met these two guys, dan and rob, at a local concert. they were the merch guys for the band, and dan saw me and called me over to the merch table. we get to talking, and he is funny as hell. he's really cute and sarcastic which I really like. then all of a sudden, rob, the other merch guys swoops in and interrupts. he pulls a straight up robbery on dan. rob is less cute, but he is really sweet. he found out that he and I go to the same college, and he wants to take me on a date.
long story short, I got both their numbers. they were both texting me. dan just makes me laugh and I feel really comfortable with him. rob keeps texting me the sweetest things, but seems needy. rob keeps talking about us going dates when we get back to school, and keeps telling me how much he likes me.
they both invited me to a hotel after-party after one of the bands shows. I wanna go, because I really want to see dan. I feel so guilty for liking dan better, but he was the one who originally was talking to me.
i didn't go, because I didn't wanna hurt rob's feelings. I found out that rob told all the guys in the band, and also dan, to back off, because he wanted me. now dan isn't talking to me anymore.
rob is having a party in a couple weeks, and dan will be there. I don't know what to do. should I just cut off contact with all of them? I don't want to break rob's heart, but I just feel a stronger connection with dan :/
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I suggest you text both D &R this same message:
Rob, I would love to attend your party - I miss you both and we seem to have lost touch.
There is one condition, however - that you both respect my life, my choices if you really care for me, as I do both of you.
My choice is to come to the party as Dan's date.
I would be honored to be your friend, Rob but something inside me cares for Dan in a more dating way to see where that leads.
If either of you feel I have sent mixed signals over this in the past, please let me know how - as these feeling are not new - I am just trying to be more clear about them.0