So I have been with my boy for 11 months. However last week I didn't hear from him for 8 days. I have a pretty f***ed up mind so I just assumed it was over(so many past issues). He called me the 8th day night and said he loved me(which is something EXTREMLY rare for him to say, not so good with his emotions) I love him with all my heart BUT while he wasn't talking to me I started talking to this dude I like and used to talk to,we ended up kissing and holding hands two days. Last time my boyfriend went m.i.a The same thing happened and I was honest and told him about it. He was forgiving but I'm scared if I tell him this time he won't be. It was just a kiss right? Maybe I should just keep it to myself?
mind you its not like me and my boyfriend got in a fight so he didn't talk to me for awhile, it was just random and it hurt my feelings a lot (ages 18&23 if that makes a difference)
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Best to vent with stangers with no consequences.
> last week I didn't hear from him for 8 days, so I just assumed it was over
Agreed this isn't very attentive. But as you say this is probably an excessive conclusion after a relatively short time. Did you try to contact him?
> while he wasn't talking to me I started talking to this dude I like
Talking to others is a good thing, but if you love Mr Effusive, when some other guy puts moves on you, just give that other guy a clear no.
Telling Mr Effusive or not is for your conscience. I'd incline to the nothing much happened, it can only have a negative impact on him, so why risk hurting him and stressing your relationship side. Doing it once and telling him clearly didn't make him more attentive, so he isn't likely to take it as sufficient threat to do so this time.
If you did it to "to get even" then that isn't particularly fair the guy you would have been using for revenge in that case (although he was clearly up for getting with you). Best not to get involved with other people beyond normal social contact unless you really intend to move on.
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