I recently started dating a girl that I like. It's going well and I suspect will be at it for a while. After a few dates with her, another girl that I like gave me her phone number, obviously with some kind of relationship in mind.
I texted the girl that gave me her phone number, and said we should hang out some time, but have never actually scheduled anything. It's been about two weeks since then, and I saw her once afterward in person and she is still interested.
I really like both of them, but feel more loyalty towards the first girl. I'm tempted to take the other girl out on a date or two, but I don't want to ruin things with the first. I just want a way to keep the second girl as an option if/when things don't work out. I don't want to make her feel like I'm uninterested. Gotta avoid the friend zone too.
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Option 1: Pick one of the two, I would suggest your gut decision. The fact of the matter is that you could pick one and it could not work out but you could have picked the other one and it wouldn't have worked out. Relationships are funny like that. If you "put a girl on hold" (frowned up and honestly mean) and that girl finds out what you did... well lets just say the saying "hell hath no fury like a women scorned" started somewhere. Be friends with one but make it clear that you're involved and you're being friends, she may decide to wait a least a bit into your relationship before she moves on, you never know.
Option 2: See if they're both okay with you casually dating the two of them, that way you can get a better feel for which one you are more interested in. I would try and be upfront about it with them, like tell them you want to date casually and that both of you are allowed to date other people. It shouldn't take too long to figure out which one you like more.
Whichever option you pick, be honest with them both. No lies. You really don't want to start things that way.0