I've been dating a guy for a year and 2 months (on and off relationship)... Honestly?, I feel like I'm the one to always say, lets talk on the phone, or lets do this, or lets do that. And my boyfriend just sits there and say's "im kinda tired, how about tomorrow"... So I let it go. But it's been from the start he's been like this. I text him, our conversation ends short because he has nothing else to say to me. So I always have to come up with a new question or story to start talking about. And we barely talk on the phone because he doesn't like talking on the phone_ yet he says he likes talking to me. And, he NEVER asks if I wanna talk on the phone or even call me unnoticed. He never asks me how I'm doing, how my day went, how my weekend went, what I have planned... NOTHING. I ask him all about his family and his job and how he's doing but I can't get any in return. When we finally get on the phone, of course I'm the one to make the conversation. I hurt my leg badly the other day and not once yet did he ask me how my leg is, (its been 3 days) ... But when he's sick or hurt I check up on him always.. ALWAYS. I don't get it. he says he's just not talkative. But idk, it upsets me a lot because I love him to death, but I wish he would just talk to me and ask me about my life and what not. Like the other day he said to me "you know sign language? I wonder what else I don't know about you." And I'm thinking "if you talked to me more and actually got into that category side of me, then you would know"... I don't know what to do. Should I leave him? because this upsets me SO MUCH. and I feel like its not going to change. we've been through this numbers of times. I need advice... really. thanks.
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Oh my dear... I think our bf's are related. Everything you said is what I have said to myself NUMEROUS times. Me and my boyfriend have been together 1.5 years. He HATES talking on the phone, he would rather text me. I too treat him like a king. If he is sick, I bring him medicine, make him tea, bring him the remote, put a blanket on him. I have a bad day and I barely get sympathy, infact... he will then tell me all about his day and he'll talk 20 min about his asshole boss. But like you no "how was your day"?. My work sent me on a day course at a local college. I texted him in the morning and said "i was in this course" he actually got a bit miffed cause why didn't I mention before? He was really confused about that... and I was like "well if you would have asked me how my day was or anything before now, I would have told you" but its mostly about his day, his loser roomate, his boss. But do I think he loves me.. yes. He at least tells me before bed, however I initiate it lol! But it still is frustrating, and like you I love my boyfriend to bits! But he is an Aries... and they do tend to be selfish... so I have read lol! I don't know what to tell you, I am telling you all this just to say some guys aren't talkers but they can still care about you. I recently read something, and it touched me, maybe you can relate to it too.
"I Believe... just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them too, doesn't mean they don't love you with all that they have". Take care1