We've been dating for about a year and a half and we still have not kissed. I really love him and this will be my first kiss. He's tried several times to kiss me but every time,I pull away. I'm scared. I don't know what to do. I kinda want everything to be perfect but I doubt that'll happen. We've decided no tongue the first time though, because it's his first kiss too.
We probably both should've already had our first kisses. I'm 16 and he's almost 17. Is that bad? Haha. Lol.
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whooahh, are you serious?
i made out with my first girl on our first date? it was awesome!
why are you scared?
wanting things to be perfect is going to set you up for failure. life isn't perfect. wanting it to be that way will turn you into a manipulative unhappy person.
i imagine that you must day dream a lot to have imagined this perfect situation that you are wanting to happen so bad. but if you live in day dreams, which arnt realistic anyway, you will miss out on the real world.
the key to have a great life is engaging in the real world, developing yourself as a person, and learning how to enjoy things the way they are. if you have a fantasy in your head about how life/relationships/love is supposed to be, and that fantasy doesn't match up with reality, then you will forever be doomed to continually disappoint.
wanting things to be perfect before you even TRY will result in total failure every time.
for example, if my dream job is to bartend on the beach, do I turn down every single job that isn't THAT perfect job? no. why? because I will have no experience or skill. even if I got what I wanted, I would fail because I didn't take the required prerequisite steps needed to deserve that job.
if I want to date the perfect girl, should I never date anyone until I meet that perfect girl? of course not. otherwise if I did finally meet that perfect girl, I would be so inexperienced, awkward and nervous around her from inexperience that she wouldn't even want me!
instead the best way for me to get the perfect girl is to start out small, date a number of girls, and learn what girls like and don't like, and make myself into a better guy who will DESERVE that perfect girl someday.
maybe the guy you are with isn't capable of giving you a great kiss. maybe he is just too awkward when he attempts it that you don't want to. does he know he needs to get you in the mood first? maybe you need someone more intune with your feelings, more sexual, more attractive, who knows. but you won't find that guy or be able to attract him unless you have made yourself into the kind of girl a great guy like that would want to pursue.
if you want a guy to romance you and charm his way into your heart, be the kind of girl that a guy would want to do that for.