I met a girl at work. She seemed interesting, so we went out a few times (dinner, movies, bar, etc). We also spend a lot of time at her house, because she loves to cook food but rarely has anyone around to help her eat it. I think she's attractive, and I'm pretty sure she's attracted to me, but there's just no chemistry. We haven't done anything physical yet (not even hand-holding).
Now to me, this means we're just friends, and I'm okay with that. But from reading posts from women on this site, it seems that hanging out one-on-one with a guy is enough for women to become more interested. I can't picture anything happening between this girl and me, so it seems silly for us to hang out and talk all the time if that's just going to give her the impression that we are more than friends.
So, I want to back off a little bit, and maybe just see her in larger group settings so she doesn't get the wrong idea. What I want to know, though, is what's going through her head right now? Do you think she's already interested in me as more than friends? I told her over the weekend that I'd call her today so we could hang out, but I'm just not feeling it.
Should I give her the "I just want to be friends" talk? It doesn't feel necessary to me, but after reading this site I've realized I know nothing about how women feel. I don't want to hurt her feelings, but I also don't want to make things unnecessarily awkward.
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Hm I would just keep doing what you're doing until she shows some clear indications that she is interested in being being more than just friends. I mean, yes the one on one hanging out can be misleading for her if she is actually interested in you, but since you guys have done nothing more than just enjoy one anothers company there is no need to give her the "I just want to be friends talk" You might just ruin your friendship all together and make things seriously awkward. Unless she starts making some big moves, keep things between you two just as they are. :)0