After me, and my ex-fiancee broke up(she broke up with me) things were okay until I decided not to go on a trip where she would be at. Then I went no contact, and removed her from everything. She started dating someone though a week after the break up, but that didn't bother me since it was her life. I thought I'd give her space this way. It's been 5 months so far.
She still checks my Facebook, and other things. And has other people checking in on me I believe. I do want her back though, and I want her to be happy if at all possible. I've been working on myself in the mean time, and have
He broke up with her Saturday though, and I was wondering how I should go about contacting her, and what I should say? Thanks ^^
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hmmmmmmmmm this is a tough one...i know this is so much easier said than done, but you need to ask yourself..."why?" ... why should you contact her? she made no effort to contact you, I applaud you for breaking contact, giving yourself and her space and you working on yourself...i'd just randomly say hey...see how she is, DO NOT SAY ANYTHING ABOUT HER BREAK UP...pretend as if you have NO IDEA THEY BROKE UP...just text or call her to see what's up and how she was...maybe say you saw something that reminded you of her and you wanted to say hello...keep it SHORT AND SIMPLE, I repeat SHORT AND SIMPLE...by texting her to say hey and that's it is great...because you're not indicated you need or want more than that...when she's asks how you are and yada yada yada just say I'm good, been keeping busy and that's it...you want to leave room open for the next time you two communicate...dont get into any details or if youve been seeing someone or currently are...you want to show her through your actions you are different...you want to take things slow (if was the turtle that won't the race, NOT the rabbit)...dont seem too overly interested in her love life or if she's seeing someone, just be cool and yourself...try to remember why she fell for you, its a slow process to show someone youve chanced but I'm in hte process of doing it to my ex of 4 years...its been a year since we broke up and I'm showing and proving this to her slowly...she dated some rebound as well...just don't get caught up in the middle of that, you don't want to hurt yourself or have her feel that she needs you when really she's trying to fill a void...be her best friend and again remind her why she fell for you, keep her laughing and entertained...if you want a week ro so from your first contact you can see if she wants to grab coffee or somethign quick (under 30 min) that way you two can catch up for real but again remember don't spill everything, you want her interested and coming back for more...this will give you the opportunity to start that spark again, seeing someoen is completely different than talking over the phone...just please remember to love yoruself and watch out for your best interests, things will take time and it won't be over night...keep her wanting more!1