OK...I am clueless when it comes to this...Here is the frequency of communication with a female colleague (we work for the same company but not the same boss):
1. We email each other every day (both professional content and personal content)
2. We talk on the phone pretty much every other day and each phone conversation is around 30min to 1 hour always early evenings and one time at 9:30pm
3. We have both showed interest in one another..
4. We have met up for lunch 3 times
So the question is..What is this and what do I do next?
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First off- careful of the lunch dates. That is a fast track to the friend zone as far as office romances go. If you work in the same building, ask if she would like to come to happy hour at a local pub etc after work one day. This is a more direct date then grabbing lunch, but still less pressure then going for dinner. Use this opportunity to gauge her feelings. Is she flirting with you or complaining about the annoying habits of Joe in the copier room AGAIN?
Make it a rule on this casual "drinks after work" date NOT to talk about work. You don't want to fall into the role of her office confidant1