I'm 25 and I've been dating this 31 year guy for almost 2 months now..
when we started dating he was working all week and weekends (because he works for a pro football team, his weekends were taken up)
I knew all of this and it didn't bother me because I was busy as well. we spent Christmas together. I was seeing him at least 2 times a week..
He text/calls/facebook me everyday even when he is busy. he says he is extremely attracted to me, likes me a lot, the sex is fab.. we have a great time together but he always is so tired and does have legitimate family drama going on right now because he lives with his mother whom is an bad alcoholic..
OK with all of this being said.. I'm not the type of girl to be played or put up with not being treated equally. Last weekend we were suppose to go out on Fri night and he ended up getting stuck at his friends dads house with no car until 1am. I didn't hear from him until Monday afternoon.. he text me and says: "hello beautiful, happy Monday.. how was your weekend?"
and of course, I feel like a piece of meat and I reply "My weekend was good, how was yours?" and I sent him another text saying
"I'm really glad I decided to go out with a guy this weekend who wanted to spend the day with me and isn't so dense"
He replies to me saying: " I'm sorry, but you probably had more fun without me and the fools, right?"
my reply was this " I'm curious, why are you texting me? when you clearly lose my number on the weekends.. You know I like you a lot but I'm not going to let you be an asshole to me".
he replied with: "I might be a dense, but I do care for you and your feelings. I don't want to be that guy you described above. my life choices shouldn't make you feel neglected because I'm not 100% happy with my situation in life right now and I don't mean to be flighty. Maybe we should hold off so no one gets hurt, my last 2 relationships hurt me a lot and I don't want to pass that hurt to you"
I replied to him (being hurt) "I don't have time for immature bullsh*t, call me when your happy"
He has continued to text me and message me on Facebook every time I sign on.
How would you take this? I'm curious as to what others think.. I've never had a guy say or do anything remotely like this to me.. so I'm a little confused.
Do you think he truly has too much going on right now or what?
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People find time to do the things they really want to do. His behavior can be based on a number of actions I can't pinpoint which one at this moment but this is what I'm getting based on your post. He may just want sex but at the same time doesn't want you going out with other guys(some men can be territorial) that's why he'll communicate with you like you're in a relationship with him but he doesn't actually want one. His agenda may have changed early on he wanted a relationship but now he doesn't but he still wants the sex which is similar to my first point. Also you mentioned he has some serious personal issues going on and that could keep him from committing but if that's the case do you really want to deal with somebody like that.0