So my boyfriend lives an hour away, and every weekend we see each other. One weekend he comes up here, and the next weekend I go over there, etc etc. Whenever we comes up here for our dates, I always have trouble figuring out something to do. It's difficult because I know that most activities involve money, and I know that he'll try to pay for us both, which will make me feel really really bad since I chose the date. (Plus, whenever we go down there, our dates normally involve having dinner with his parents, watching a movie at his house, or hanging out with his friends, so there is no money involved. Occasionally we go to coffee or dinner, and he will pay, but not very often.) I feel like out of courtesy I should be choosing dates that don't involve money, especially since he has a very low-paying job.
The thing is, most dates that don't involve money seem very...girly. For example, going on a picnic. Or volunteering. Or going on a walk. Or cooking dinner together. See what I mean? Guys, would you hate these dates? If so, what would you rather do? If not, why?
PS, sex doesn't count as a date, so please don't suggest that. hahaha
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I have to say no. In fact I have to say that by doing those things you can make him realize that you love him not for what he does or spend but for who he is. I'm sure he does appreciate that you do understand his financial situation, especially during our wonderful double deep recession a.k.a. Depression. Right now it is extremely hard for both guys and girls to get a good going relationship. Because no jobs or low paying jobs means no money or little, that means you have to get recreational. Walking is fine in fact it is healthy and romantic that's a good plus. Cooking that's a good thing to he can cook something for you you can cook something for him or you can both experiment for fun,0