I'm so very sad. This is our first Valentine's Day. We have been dating for 5 1/2 months. He lives 1 1/4 hours away, not that far, and wasn't working today. He had his son this morning & after school, but he could have come to visit tonight. He didn't. No card. No flowers. He text me & sent a picture of roses to me on my computer. Later, I get a text from him complaining that he was keeping his son late because his ex had plans. I replied "lucky her, she has a Valentine's date." No response until much later saying he wasn't sure if she did or not. I didn't respond because I'm hurt. I do not want to be a baby, but shouldn't your first Valentine's Day together actually be together or at least be acknowledged or something?
I have never had a Valentine's Day as an adult because it is my ex husband's birthday and we just celebrated that. So this year I thought it would be something special. Am I being a baby? How should I handle this? Should I just forget it? Tell me to just forget it.
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I'm sorry (no I'm not) but I don't agree with the advice that has been given to you. I am big on letting things go, water under the bridge & don't sweat the small stuff. This is not small enough for you to "just let it go". I would not go crazy, sit a cry about it but hey, it's days like this that was created for us to be with the one we love. Days like this is important to us as women so if we just let it ride then what else will we start allowing to "ride".
I say, mention it to him. Let him know...Hell you cared enough about it to mention it to us, your feelings were hurt and I understand why. I am very much on men side about too many issues but here, I felt your pain because you are in a fresh relationship...Girlfriend/boyfriend. After coming out of a marriage you tend to look forward to having someone that will make a true effort to be thoughtful.
A man once told me that the cheapest dozen of roses was sent via mms & all the women melted inside texting him their thank you's. That is not enough! I am not asking you to make this a big conversational piece with him but to "not" belittle your own happiness, no matter how small it may be to someone else. Take a breath, hold your head high & no not to "expect" anything from people. Good luck girlfriend!2