Met a guy 3 and half months ago, dated for 2, I thought things were going great so I asked him how he thought things were going (Can't assume). He says he thinks I'm great and doesn't want me to feel confused and would I like to chat about it over a drink. We do, he says he enjoys my company, bedroom department is great, really fancies me and respects and cares about me but yet he doesn't want to carry anything on! Says he's not ready (But yet dated me anyway) says he doesn't want to lose me (Over watery eyes) and wants to stay friends with me, take me out for my birthday and help me move in may. I don't understand why I'm suddenly someone he doesn't want to date anymore or what I did wrong. Why date me if he's not ready, I just don't understand, Does anyone else?! Thanks ~X~X~X~
Why date me if he's not ready?
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Well, your problem here is you put the cart before the horse. Never add sex to the mix until AFTER the guy tells you he wants a relationship. If you keep sex out of the mix, it forces both of you to really focus on the emotional connection or lack thereof. That is what is missing here. This guy has a lot of good things to say about you, kind of like admiring a nice piece of art, but he has no emotional ties to you. For a guy, that can still be perfectly enjoyable for a period of time, maybe even a long one. But, here you are, hopeful that things have progressed, only to find out nothing is really there.
So, he dated you because he was ready... to date you and have sex with you and enjoy your company, but he never developed the emotional attachment that would lead to a relationship and love. Next time, take it slower, focus on emotions, have the talk, then move on to the rest. Good luck!2
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