This is for guys who have been in my situation... girls can give me some input if they have something to say here.
Basically, I went through a very bad breakup about 8 months ago. It was really bad for a while, like I couldn't sleep and definitely couldn't go after other girls. I'm finally beginning to move on, flirting with other girls, I've even kissed/been with a few. I'm able to find other girls attractive and even have a few hours at a time when I don't think about my ex (this is HUGE progress compared to a few months ago).
My problem is that I'm having more trouble being confident and just satisfied than before my ex. I can be outgoing and I'm pretty good-looking so I don't have much trouble talking to girls. But I've driven away every opportunity I've had so far by either trying to move to fast, sending mixed signals, maybe even creeping some girls out - all just because I really want to move on and I really want someone in my life again (not as a rebound... that already happened).
Has anyone else had this kinda situation after a really bad breakup? Any thoughts/support would be great. thanks guys/girls
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It sounds like you are putting too much pressure on yourself. Not just any woman can fill the void left after losing someone we love. I think it works the same way for women. You can have someone OK for a while, but eventually it isn't going to be right and isn't going to work. Every girl you are with doesn't have to be, and in most cases won't be the one. I know you are ready to fill that void and have a special person in your life again. I'm right here with you feeling the same way, but it can't be forced. The right woman will come along who will make you feel as good, and even better than your ex made you feel. Just relax until it comes. Don't feel like you have to put every woman you talk to in that spot. Keep going out and meeting women, enjoy your time with the women you meet, become great friends with as many of them as you can, and when the right one comes along it will all work out. Don't force it. She will come.0