So I am 20 and never been in a serious, long term relationship. I have been in several short-term flings, one of which was someone I genuinely did love because we were good friends for 6 months prior to us getting together. However, I ended up alone after all of these flings.
I am a virgin, although I have done everything but sex. I was hoping to wait until I met someone who would either be committed to me, or someone I just trusted enough to not use me.
However, none of the guys in my past proved themselves to be this type of guy. And no one I know now is that way either. I am a sophomore in college and I am at the point now where I don't think a really good, genuine guy is gonna appear any time soon.
It could easily be YEARS until I meet someone I really trust and care about. So why wait?
I am so impatient and I am tired of holding my standards so high that I keep ending up alone. I really feel like I should just jump on the bandwagon and start really living the single life like everyone else in college is doing.
Does anyone else feel this way?
I really really really do NOTTT want to keep waiting and waiting. Who knows when I will meet him? And who knows how long it will take until I trust him? it could be FOREVER.
I just feel so lost.
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Mr. Right never comes when you expect him.
In my case, he came and he turned out to be a pain. I lost my virginity at 18 because, well that seemed like the best avenue, I like you, wanted to save it for someone who was right for me.
I lost it to a guy who I trusted and respected, but we never got in a relationship and since then I've been sticking with FWB relationships because at 21, I have no interest in committing myself while I have so many other things going on. It works for me because I'm with 1 person at a time and it's a mock relationship in it's own way. I get the affection I need and the sex I want, without having to fuss about dates and trivial horse sh*t.
You are setting the bar pretty high, I mean I don't know what your standards for a man are, but if you aren't meeting men who fit your criteria, you may want to change some of your "musts". I watch a lot of the Millionaire matchmaker and I read her book, which is great if you want advice on having a stable relationship and attracting the right people. But like Patty says in the book, you can't be crazy picky. There's just some stuff you have to say, "you know, I really like this person and maybe this thing I don't like about them I can overlook.".
Mr. Right's out there, he just shows up when you really seriously don't want him to.0