I am recently divorced and have a 5 year old. It's seems like it is hard to find guys that are open to dating me since I have a child. It's not like I was going around having lots of sex and got pregnant. I was married to the father for a couple of years.
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Recall that most single guys are looking for a lover first, then a girlfriend, then a mother. The most common mistake for dating moms is that they attempt this backward--doesn't work.
If he's the long-term relationship type, then he has to consider *immediately*: a. whether he wants to be a parent at all, and b. whether he wants to be a parent with you. That's a lot to take in on the first date.
You can ease this a lot with how you date. First, your dates don't need to know *at all* that you have a child until he's decided to stick around for a while. If he doesn't even know whether he likes you or not, bringing up the kid will, if not spook him, at least confuse his thinking.
Then, if he's a keeper, you want to ease him into the details of your domestic life. Don't toss him into the mix immediately. As a general rule, let him tell you when he's ready. If he shows absolutely no interest in meeting your child or it looks like they might not get along, that's a red flag. You want him looking forward to this, not dreading it.2