Should I stop calling and texting her?

It's bothering me that she never contacts me first, and that ever since I've met her, up until our most recent date, I've always been the one to contact her. So I was thinking that I need to change my behavior to let her know I don't like it, because going on like this is not going to make me happy.

Should I stop calling and texting her until she eventually contacts me, or should I send her a text saying, "hey you know I've noticed I'm always the one contacting you, why is it like that?"

I haven't talked to her in two days, I've contacted her a few days ago and she kept it short, and I'll be leaving on holiday soon so I won't be able to plan any dates in a while, which is what made me think she was interested in me initially (agreeing to go out together). But now that there are no plans she's short in her responses, though still friendly, and I need to let her know I don't like this.

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  • This is a tough one! The guy I like always starts the conversations and recently he hasn't been speaking to me, but I don't want to start the conversation in case I look too keen. As frustrating as it can feel, maybe you should continue in making the effort with starting the conversation. Maybe just send her a message inviting her out before you go on holiday. Girls respond well to guys making the effort to see them and contact them! As for letting her know you don't like it, I'd hold off because it may put her off! I know it sucks always making the effort all the time but the more effort a guy puts in, the more a girl will respond and start making the effort too! Good luck

    • really? I'm in the same situation jus dnt wanna annoy the girl by bein first always

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    • I know I'm 10 months.. But please.. just stop. How the hell were you so paranoid to look clingy and desperate, when you're the one who leaves it to the guy to initiate everything? Ughh, these behaviors annoy me. I hate always initiating first and feeling like they are entitled to be treated like princesses.

    • Lol whatever, I don't expect to be treated like a princess, in fact I was the one who took my now boyfriend on our first date. I was simply stating some women do have insecurities and don't like making the first move. I wasn't saying men always had to make the moves, simply stating some women are uneasy with initiating conversation with the men they like. Jeez.