Okay so there's this guy that I like and I've heard from many people that he likes me too. The only thing is since we don't have any classes together we only see each other in the halls and wave or smile. We talk everyday online though. So I need advice on how to talk to him before it's too late. But I'm extremely shy with guys, so I find it very hard. Any suggestions or tips on how to overcome it? Please :]
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I think there are two schools of thought in dealing with shyness. One is to think about what it is you want to do, to say, to have happen and then envision it working out. So you could think of a few things you'd like to say, imagine the conversation occurring and going well, and then visual the whole thing. Then you can approach the situation knowing what you expect and what you intend to have happen. Having seen it in your mind, it can be less intimidating.
However, there's a second way of looking at the shyness (which I agree with more) and that is to ignore it. Acknowledge that you feel uncomfortable, but just keep on going. For example, sometimes we are hungry and kind of shaky for food. But that doesn't mean we don't look for food - we just have to do it while we're hungry and shaky. It's a feeling, but because we know what it is, we don't let it conquer us. Shyness is a feeling too - it's fear mixed with sadness at the thought of rejection. Say to yourself "I'm kind of saddened by my fear of being turned down. It worries me that I'm not good enough." You'll be surprised that naming the feeling helps you feel better. Then, even though you are nervous, you just do it.2