I have been dating my boyfriend for 5 months now. The beginning started off rocky as he rarely called or texted me. Then around Christmas he disappeared only to come back apologizing and promised things would be better.
Around 3 months in the relationship I got mad with him for the lack of phone calls. At this point he admitted to me he had previously been engaged to his girlfriend of 4 years. They broke up only 6 months before we started dating. He said he was just not a phone person.
Now that he told me about his ex he will mention her from time to time about time they shared together. I understand he has a past and like the fact he shares it with me but now I'm insecure. Am I his rebound from that relationship? If she wanted him back would he go? I have really started to develop feelings for him and am starting to fall for him big time. I'm scared of being hurt. I read all these posts from men who want their exes back, it just makes me sad. I don't know what to do?
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I wouldn't worry about his ex too much or whether he would go back to her or not. If I were you Id worry about something else. You've been dating your man for 5 months and was rocky from the get-go. I know that us women (and men...a lot of men...) are very patient and we give people time and space...but we end up not giving ourselves what we trully want. A relationship (at least in my book) should be exciting at the beginning. Its the honey-moon period. And you never got this time with him. I don't like the lack of calls and text. I don't like the disappearing act. He could be hurting over his ex, he could be still thinking of the times they had together...whatever...even if there was NOT an ex around, are you happy with the deal you are getting? You seem to be trying and wanting to make this work more than he does as he doesn't put in the effort. If it was just the lack of calls or text I would have told you that hey he simply might not be a call-text type of guy. But when you add up the disappearing act and the constant mention to the ex...I don't think he is ready for the commitment you want. I'm not knocking him, perhaps he is a great person but still a very confused person. You really should not be there in order to "mend" his broken heart in the hope that one day he will be fine and the relationship perfect...dont be in love with the "potential". I would reconsider this relationship. I'm not saying "break up with him" instantly, that's totally up to you cause you are the only one that knows what you mean by a "rocky" beginning. If there is more that you didn't disclose in your post Id seriously give the man space! If he is the right one and he is ready he won't disappear.1