Why do guys whine and bitch so much about paying child support?

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I mean seriously I practically never hear girls complain as much as guys. They say man I didn't want this kid why should I have to pay for it, because whether you like it your DNA is running around and the government shouldn't have to pay for your mistake. If a girl didn't want an abortion, oh well get over it. She made her decision you'll just have to live with it. Have fun paying child support. And I already one of you retards are gonna her body...her choice...her responsibility, fake as philosopher.  Why can't you retards realize that this the baby is already born at this point and needs support! And since it is half yours you should support it.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Ok, female input. I have issues with this as a female because, you're right in that its your body and its your choice, and not everyone agrees with abortion. However, you call it his 'mistake' girl it ain't just up to the man to put something on it..everyone to the man, and to the female has a responsibility to use contreception if they don't want a child, and if you don't and you get pregnant and you chose to keep the baby, then that is your choice. Lets be honest if a 'mistake' occurs the man actually has no say...he isn't the one who is pregnant, and he can't physically make the choice, only the women can do something about it. If men were the ones who got pregnant, things might be a little different...and after all, you said it, it is half his DNA.

If, lets say you and your man are together and you've been together for a while, you have a child, it wasn't planned but you both wanted it anyway. Then two years down the line you split, and he decides he don't want anything to do with the child, he don't want to pay for it, and he don't even want to see it. Then yes, I would say in this case senario he needs to take responsibility for his child because when it was concieved he was happy for it to go ahead. and yes I believe he should pay what the goverment says he should.

But some girls, and it does happen, get pregnant, have the child, despite the guy not wanting it, and then force and complain that this guy isn't doing his duty for his child. I am not a feminist, but I do feel that, if a mistake occurs and (actually its not a mistake if you didn't use anything, because well that's what happens when sex is unprotected) But I do feel that, because the guy can't actually physically do anything about it, that the girl is actually trapping him into this by having it. Where's the men's rights? why should men be trapped into something they have no control over in any way.

i actually think men should have the right to decide in cases where, it was a mistake, they're no longer with the girl, it might have been a casual thing, or one night stand, to whether they keep it or not, because just because nature gave it to the woman to carry, doesn't make it her god given right to tell men they should then take responsibility for it. And if the case is it was a mistake, the guy don't want it, but the girl has it because she wants it, then no, I don't think men should pay. Because the man as I have already pointed out, cannot physically do anything about it.

Sorry but, the baby thing is so much more complicated then how you make it.

gemini72 · Accepted Answer

Well, a bit harsh Anonymous...I wouldn't be so quick to generalize all men.

I've seen it both ways. My exhusband (even when he was seeing the kids) only paid a 1/3 of what he was court mandated to do so. I didn't call him out on it because, quite frankly, I didn't give a damn about his money. I left the marriage with nothing and didn't expect anything. As in, I didn't ask for child support even though I really could have used all of it.

Now that he isn't seeing the kids at all (by court order), he refuses to pay anything because he isn't seeing them... Hmmm...for someone who professed to love them that much and would do whatever it took to see them happy blah blah blah has decided that he is going to pay nothing. Whatever.

The man that I'm with now pays MORE than what he really has to but that's because he wants to. He feels that he is responsible (as much as his former wife) for the welfare of the children.

I think it boils down to the personality of the man but I won't generalize. In my case, his farm and working on the rigs was far too important than paying $600 for 2 kids per month (although he only paid $200 for both). In his case, it was vindiction. He was convinced that I was wasting the money on myself and not the kids. Why not an RRSP or savings account then?

That's gotta make you think...

Motorcycle_Girl · Accepted Answer

Ever heard of a man having full custody and getting child support form a woman? Pretty rare... even more rare is a man bitching about it (because they don't). My fiancee has full custody and recieves nothing from the mother. Courts won't do anything about it because (and read this carefully)... because he is not on welfare of any kind. Once a woman is pregnant, men have no rights.

I completely understand the system of child support, and how it is SUPPOSED to help. But it is a system that is too easily abused as men's rights are stripped as soon as an embryo is fertilized. Society is telling men that their only value as a father is their money. Nothing else is considered. NOTHING. A few years ago I would have agreed that dead beat fathers disgust me, then I started dating a man with children and realized the absolute hell they can be forced to go through if the woman has any slight grudge against him. What really ticks me off is it is the guys that stick around and do their best to follow the laws that usually get screwed in the end. The guys that run off at the first word of missed period that get off scott free.

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

Support your children? Yes!

Support your ex's lavish lifestyle, with less than a third of your child support money being used for the kids in any way (including rent/utilities/clothes/food, etc.), while the guy rents a room and eats bulk-pack hotdogs and ramen noodles? No.

The problem is that child support money doesn't have to be accounted for, and for every deadbeat dad, there is a deadbeat mom who takes the bulk of the child support money and spends it mostly on herself.

My coworker drives an $800 car, rents a $550 room in someone's house, and has about $400 left over for to pay for gas, food, and clothes. He has no internet, no pay TV, and only his work cell phone. All of his "extra" money is saved for his two daughters, and his twice-a-year trips to see them, since his ex moved 650 miles away with them to be with her boyfriend.

She lives in a new house, drives a 2010 Mustang GT, goes clothes shopping regularly, has sat TV with sports packages and the latest cell gadges (cell phones & iPad), while she buys their daughters' clothes at Walmart and Goodwill. Last year, she went on a week-long cruise to the Carribean and had another 2-week vacation in Spain.

How can this happen? Simple: she was awarded $1800/month in child support, while his take-home pay is under $3000/month. Did I mention that he worked and put her through RN school, and then paid back her college loans? And that she divorced him as soon as they were paid off? And that she has taken him back to court several times to get child support increases?

And while this example is extreme, I know at least a dozen men with similar, but less extreme situations.

The court only looks at who made the money and how much. They don't look at the fact that he put her through school and paid her loans; in fact, they used that against him.

When she was awarded the house (the kids needed a place to live), he lost his tax deduction and took a big tax hit too.

He has no problem paying to support his kids, but the court is forcing him to support her lifestyle, while allowing his to be little more than a slave.

When the system stops allowing absuses ON BOTH SIDES, then we can talk.

Ragnarok21 · Accepted Answer

Well, because in most states it is required that the man must pay the equivilent amount of money that they were using when the two parents split. If a man supports his chldren and wife and is making $100,000 a year, he must keep paying the amount required for his children to live that same lifestyle. It ahppens more than you think. But, there would be no bitching if the courts were fair, Virtually every child goes with the mother, only in extreme cases (mom is doing drugs or prostituting) while the father is a clearly better parent will he actually be given custody, the divorce system has been set up recently to help struggling women, but recently women have become more educated and more able to be independant. What's going on is unfair and I would even say sexist, the better parent should have custody, if that's the woman so be it.

If on the other hand the dad is just a dead beat who has the money but refuses to pay it, he is just being an asshole.

Myth024 · Answer

In some ways I've always thought that the process of paying child support was not always fairly done. There is some arbitrary dollar amount that is supposed to be a value assigned to the rearing of a child. I've always believed that if child support is part of the equation then it should fall that the actual cost of raising a child should be evaluated and made sure that both parties are as equally involved with monetary support. Even if this means assigning a dollar value to the actual hours spent care-taking.

To play the devils advocate as it were, it takes two to make a child. If there are sexual relations and both parties are aware that having children is not part of the equation then if a child is accidentally conceived then both parties will need to take responsibility. If the woman decides to give birth to the child, why can't the father insist the child be given up for adoption. After all, it was neither parties intention to have a child so why should the guy suffer just because the woman decides she wants to raise the child on her own?

So some guys might resent the fact that a child is not something they wanted and were well aware that steps were being taken to prevent pregnancy in the first place. So when a child does come into the picture a guy is wondering why he should pay for something he never wanted in the first place when it would be easier to simply give the child up for adoption.

So enough of being the devils advocate.

Personally I'd do what I could to support the child and I would have taken the time to discuss adoption as well as keeping the child in the context of not what we as the parents want, but rather what is the best for the child. I also would insist on being part of the child's life and instead of paying support, I would rather provide support by being a part of the child rearing process. If both parents can equally share in the raising of a child, then there should be no child support issues.

I would venture to guess that the reason women complain far less than guys is because it's the woman who has already cared for the child before birth and there is already a connection there. Paying child support isn't seen as a hardship, but as actual support for the child. Guys may see the money as being paid to the parent and women may see it as money being paid to the child.

chiba · Answer

"I mean seriously I practically never hear girls complain as much as guys."

That is because the majority of those who pay child support are men. Paternity fraud is abundant and not only effects men but it also effects women as well. Imagine paying for a child that isn't yours. Having your paycheck garnished because some bitch decided to take your husband to court to pay child support for a child he didn't even know he had.

In this day and age were women have just as many rights if not more than men do we still need have child support? Women are always saying that they don't need men then come after us to pay for child support under the guise of "you need to live up to your responsibility". What about your responsibility as a woman. How about you stop having sex with dead beats and losers then expecting them to magically change into responsible adults because your pregnant and deciding to keep it. Why should a man be held financially responsible for your decision. Men only have condoms and they are about 90%-95% effective at best assuming you use it properly and the date has not expired. Women have well over a dozen forms of birth control and I don't buy that I can't be on birth control because I'm allergic. There are simply too many choices to pick from. The old saying is true that with great power comes great responsibility. Men should not get punished paying for 18 years or more of support for having sex. We as men need to have sex with responsible women. Women who are on the same page as us. People are having sex at much earlier ages from as early as 9 years old. People need to be realistic about this. Men should only have sex with responsible individuals who know where you stand on the issue of pregnancy. When I have sex I tell the woman I do not want kids. I do not believe in accidents. I use condoms 100% of time even if they tell me they are on the pill. I will not sleep with a woman who does not use some form of birth control be it the pill or some other form of birth control that is not hormonal. With the advances in medicine unwanted pregnancies should be a thing of the past. People are going to have sex that just the way it is. I've know women who got pregnant and went behind the husband's/boyfriend's back and got an abortion because they didn't want the child. Women can give up their baby for adoption with no stigma. Why is it okay for a woman to walk away from her responsibility but not a man? And don't say it's because it's her body. I wouldn't want you coming off as being some "...fake as philosopher." If you can't afford to have a child don't have one. If the agreement is not mutual between both parties don't have one. Bringing a child into this world under these circumstances I truly believe to be another form of child abuse. The child does not deserve that. And by the way, what kind of woman would bring a child into this world who's father is an irresponsible dead beat. Jeez, thanks mom.

PeterCobra · Answer

the judicial system.  dudes working 3 jobs to afford the outrageous child support ammounts on even ONE child that the mom fought with teeth and nails for in court.  a man is the enemy of the state the minute he walks into a courtroom when there is a woman involved.  who gets custody? women.  If a crazy B1TC# comes swinging at her man with knife and he shoves her on her butt to try to get away, who wins that with the police? women.  I'm no lawer but I spent years as a DFCS investigator and sat through A LOT of cases waiting on mine to come up.  you wouldn't believe the men I have seen getting torched in court with all kinds of evidence stacked against the women.  I know a damn good man right now working 70 hr work weeks of hard labor, living in a trailer park, eating ramen noodles everyday, cause outrageous child support is breaking his back on just one kid and the mom is spending about 10% on the child and spending the rest on herself and going on riverboat gambling trips with her new man. He loves his child and only get's to see him every other weekend.  That's 4 days a month!  The way child suppport is now, guys are having 75% of their income taken while some girl gets her hair and nails done off of it.  And he can't even try to have any kind of a life and ever have hopes of finding love because 1) he can't afford it.  2) he can't take off work from his third job to go on a date.  Yall need to look at the other side of things once and a while and quit all this male bashing.  Cause for every deadbeat dad there is a deadbeat mom, leaving her baby with its grandparents so she can tear the club up and make even more illigetimate kids.

Cosmogirl22 · Answer

I can tell you why my brother b!tches about paying child support. He spoils his kids rotten and buys his boys everything. Theyre 5 and 7 and they both have Iphones and Ipads. He buys them expensive clothes, pays fpr their private schools and pretty much anything they want. He gives his ex 1300.00 a month for child support and she doesn't spend anything on them. I know you're probably gonna say that they don't need Iphones or other stuff, but if he don't buy them stuff, she won't either. Most guys would probably give the 1300 and tell their kids to ask their mother for money. I'm sorry but 1300 is a lot of money for 2 kids. Child support is to support the kids, not tje Ex wife that is to lazy and does not want to work. How many moms out there get child support and still get help from the government cause they choose to be on welfare? The system should be changed. If fathers support their kids, they should not have to pay child support. Women, and this I know because I have friends that get child support. Women use child support to support themselves. My friend has a 2010 truck that she pays with my brothers child support.

JohNfromKolob · Answer

Yes its stupid...child support isn't even that much cosndiering how much really goes into raising a kid...just because you send a check doesn't make you a supportive father. BUT...I will say this...why is it that I would be expected to pay for a kid I don't want...and yet if the woman won't get an abortion or adopt it out...i still have to BUT the woman can, without my consent..even if I'm pleading with her to keep the baby..she can suck our kid and crush his bones with a vaccum tube and I have ZERO say. I'm an atheist but I'm anti-abortion and it makes dating impossbile seeing as how virtually ALL pro-life girls are uppity Christian zealots...If I was a woman...it wouldn't matter who I slept with because no guy can force me to abort...but I'm a guy so I would be at the mercy of the woman...she could destroy our unborn child without my consent...I think its inconsistent:

A man who gets a woman pregnant but refuses to be a dad...is a deadbeat loser

A mom who gets pregnant and chooses to get rid of her baby by killing it...shes just "pro-choice".

Amasis · Answer

i saw the question here and was a tad curious about the answers, and I gotta say, some of them I strongly disagree with while parts of some of them I do agree with.

the people saying something along the lines of "he deserves the right to bitch and moan after the woman roped him in by having a baby." "right on. just another dumb c*nt bimbo with half a brain spouting feminist horse sh*t" "Sounds like a feminist talking." always makes me question their intelligence because for the first one, how would the woman "rope him in" if he was doing something to prevent the production of said child?

As for the second one, if you are going to say it anyway then please don't type it in a way that makes you look like a dumbass (unless of course it is true then by all means go right on ahead) and I REALLY hope you aren't one of those dumbasses that think women belong in the kitchen, because if you are then I really feel sorry for both you, and any women that might be in or enter your life.

For the third example, come on, really? it makes perfect sense for a mother who might just have lost a chance for her to get a really good job and start a good life just because some idiot was too lazy to apply a little bit of rubber to get paid for that little bit of laziness. And hell even if it was an accident then any self-respecting man would do the honorable thing and help pay for the child's well being.

Riah92 · Answer

well from my experience, I'm going to say yes, the guy should have to pay child support. my mom married a complete asshole, and she was with him for ten years (married) and had both me and my brother. he never wanted either one of his children, and he basically ignored us all the time. never worked, never did anything to help. so, my mom divorced him. she had two kids already, she didn't want to take care of a third one. anyway, after she divorced him, he was ordered to pay child support, and he did for a while, but shortly after the checks stopped coming. my mom was too worn down to take him to trial, so she just struggled on as best as she could. so as a result, my mom worked at a dead end job, and could barely afford to make rent and feed me and my brother. so should a guy pay child support? f*** yes.

on the other hand, if the guy marries a complete bitch who divorces him and takes all his money and only spends it on herself, then of course he shouldn't be giving her anything. however, the legal system is screwed up and imperfect, so there's no way to make sure that the money is used for the children.

if the mother in question is single, and young, without a good source of income, I believe that the guy should be forced to pay child support, whether he likes it or not. otherwise it's not fair to the mother or her poor children. on the other hand, if a woman divorces her rich husband, and her children are say teenagers, and she can afford to take care of them herself, then I think it's stupid to make the guy fork over money that won't even be used on the children anyway. that's my opinion

Anonymous · Answer

I am not suggesting that all children that are born into a world where one parent doesn't want it that he shouldn't pay for it, but here's something you might want to think on. I know there are many reasons, but how about women, who have children and then give them up for adoption, they no longer pay for that child, no longer care for it, they give it up...and they don't always consult the father..they just do it.

Why can't you see, that just because a sperm is given, that it means the guy must always be responsible for it? Men can't ever get pregnant, they cannot ever make this decision for themselves. It will always be the womans choice whether or not to have it. AND I know what abortion is thanks, I have had one...so I know what affect it can have on women, but still when I had this abortion I didn't just do it, I spoke to the father too, I asked him what he would want, and as ADULTS we discussed it and BOTH came to the decision that we had only been together a few months and weren't ready for the responsibility.

BUT had I chosen to have the kid, and he was adamant he didn't want it, then no, I would not then later ask him to pay up, simply because I CHOSE, to have the kid, KNOWING full well he didn't want it...it was MY choice and if I believe I am ready to have a child then I SHOULD DAMN WELL BE READY TO SUPPORT IT.

Doesn't really matter what you think of me for saying this, the simple fact is, if a GUY DID WANT THE CHILD, AND THE MOTHER GOT RID OF IT, PEOPLE WOULD SAY, OH WELL ITS HER BODY SHE HAS THE RIGHT TO DECIDE...

I know what FINACIAL abortion is, I get what it means, but at the same time, men can't chose and that's a FACT and if you girls don't want to get pregnant THEN DON'T SLEEP WITH HIM WHEN HE HASN'T GOT ANY PROTECTION. SIMPLE!

Malcom_Reynolds · Answer

Guys get no say in whether or not they keep the child. I do actually support the idea that it is the woman's choice as to whether or not she gets an abortion. My personal thought on the matter is that if the guy doesn't want the baby, and the girl does, there should be some method in which he doesn't have to pay child support. By consequence to this, he would give up all parenting rights to the child. In the case where the girl didn't want the baby, the guy did, and the girl didn't want to go through with an abortion, she'd be able to do something similar.

That's my hypothetical system, you can give whatever feedback you want on it. With the current system: guys don't want to be paying money to support a child that they barely get to see, except for extenuating circumstances custody is nearly always awarded to the mother, there is no guarantee that the money they're paying is supporting child instead of its mother, and guys didn't get a decision, she did, and now they have to live with it.

Anonymous · Answer

I think child support is filled with emotions that cloud the truth. Since you actually pay it to the ex and not to the child, it can become a big issue when your ex actually has to ask you or push for the support. That is why I am a big fan of the court system taking it out of paychecks so two people that obviously did not get along very well in the first place are not in the position of playing collection agency every month.

I do think the awarding of child support is not very equitable and I feel that with the economic downturn there are some flaws that have gotten worse. For instance, if you made a good amount of money at one point but due to the economy cannot make the same income, it doesn't necessarily mean you can have your support payments reduced. My fiance is in a difficult position because of this and it appears the courts just expect he should be able to make the same income eventually even though he is making less than his ex. Every month is a struggle and he owes back support from a period of time that he was not making enough money to cover the support.

I am a woman that is paying support to my ex. I can see my ex is doing well, with a new luxury car and still able to own the large home we had together in our divorce. It makes me wonder that what I pay is too much but because he owns a business and it doesn't appear to be doing much better than when we divorced, heaven only knows what would happen. We get along well now, so the idea of fighting over this now is just not worth it.

And, yes, there are some men out there that have no interest in caring either physically or financially for their children. They don't care, don't want to see them and don't want to take money they could spend on other activities and use it for a child. It sucks, but it happens.

Anonymous · Answer

well i can tell you my situation. i was happy in a relationship for 5 years, i was even getting ready to ask this girl to marry me,. our daughter had just turned 4 and we just got back from our trip to las vegas. i knoticed she was different the whole trip, wouldn't take pictures of us together or nothing., we got back and she ended things. i was heart broken, not only that but she started dating a friend a week later dumped him n got married n prego a month after that and she hated me for some reason,. she yelled and swore. but we continued to raise our daughter together. as time went on, she verbal abuse got worse,. everything i did, like take her to the dentist or docter, put her in sports or activites, everything i did, nothing was ever good enough. she critisied everything. "wow your cheap for only buying clothes at walmart" or something similar to those lines. i found a new gf and thats when she took me to court

its been 3 years now and things are getting crazy. she is doing everything to try and take my kid away and all she wants is child support. my daughter lives with me half time n i pay all the same bills as she does.

but she is married n her husband makes way more money. so its really not fair to SOME men.

just look at it from your point of view. what if you and your ex had a child together, n then he took you to court one day and then all of a sudden you had to pay him child support, would you be happy or pissed off.

Anonymous · Answer

Because its immoral. Because it is involuntary and involuntary work is slavery. You steal our children then demand money. This is called kidnapping. Men have almost no chance of raising our children ourselves so its not like this is choice. You steal our kids then stick a gun in our face. Lets put this in a way a woman can understand. What do women put their primary efforts and energy into - their looks. They pour their egos, time, expense, and effort into their beauty. Rape is considered a horrible crime as it is the theft of the enjoyment of this without the woman's consent. What does a man put his effort into? His work. What he does and what does c. s. and alimony do? Steals this. So lets put this into a form you can understand. Here's a divorce agreement that shows how a man feels when his former wife does this: "From now on Miss, you'll be required to give sexual and homemaking services to your ex in perpetuity or until he decides to marry again. He doesn't have to do anything for you and can be as vicious or brutal or degrading during the sex as he wants. If you can't or won't do this we put you in jail and force you to sexually service the convicts."

Rape to a woman is the same territory as slavery is for a man which is why it was considered at one time something to be abolished. Now however women demand we men see it as a virtue - like honoring your rapist that he was kind enough to think you worthy of his attentions. Get it now honey?

needlessthing · Answer

yeah easy to say when guys get stuck paying the bill because a girl tricked him (know a girl that took the condom from the trash and used it to get pregnant, another girl was poking holes in the condoms, another stopped taking the pill behind her mans back.)...or...how about a wife that cheats on her husband and she uses the kid as leverage in court. gets custody of the kid. and the guy see her wearing new cloths and stuff and knows that money isn't going to raise the kid properly. This isn't always the case, sometimes guys are just dead beats but you hear the stories all the time about courts siding with rotten women trying to get a free ride on another guy. just remember there is always 2 sides to every story.

TheAnswerer · Answer

"If a girl didn't want an abortion, oh well get over it. She made her decision you'll just have to live with it."

I don't agree. It is both of their child. The mother MUST take the father's opinion into consideration as well and decide together. The baby doesn't JUST belong to the mother. Like you said, half of it's DNA is from the father.

Also, for God's sake, please don't post stuff while you are angry. Go take a nap, or do something fun, and then come back and post it. Or you just end up insulting the GaG community. ("one of you retards", "Why can't you retards", "Why do guys whine and bitch so much", etc.)

alimahadtheman · Answer

What kind of men do you LIVE with?

A baby is NEVER a mistake why do you even call it that?

I know there are bad people, and guys like that exist. But just because you have not run into a good guy (Mind you) you have no right to call us some inherent retards or jerks or complainers. There are shallow girls and shallow guys. Guys are not shallow nor are girls. So stop this bland generalization.

Secondly if a girl haves sex with a complete douche bag its her fault. If a GUY sleeps with a woman who blackmails him it's HIS fault. So whatever the gender may be, If you make babies with the wrong person it is your fault equally so take responsibility for your actions

Lupianwolf · Answer

Just my opininon but I think it is wrong to force someone to pay something that they might not even wanted, sure the guy is a jackass and should have been more careful but saying you don't want a an abortion get over it, is fine but you should have a baby if your emotionally and financially stable if not get aborted, adoption or raise it yourself but don't expect someone to then pay money towards you

Think of it this way, would the child want to be raised with no money and not see his father but still get money from him, obviously because of your religious views I can't change your opinion but I don't think it is right to force somebody to do something against their will

DamieWamie · Answer

I think you have it aaaalll wrong. See, REAL men get a job, a career even, before they decide to have kids. REAL men wrap it up if they don't want a kid, not "going raw" and being stupid as sht. REAL men LOVE providing for their family, Yes FAMILY SINGULAR, not a ton of little demons he has spawned all across the world. These are all things that REAL men do, not the fake mofos that you're talking about.

I hate it how when a couple retarded fools that don't know anything about life get all of us good men out here generalized. Stop going after the fools that don't care about you and let a REAL man in!

eldamien · Answer

You probably don't hear about women paying high child support because men are disproportionately denied custody, yet asked to pay child support, then frequently denied visitation - regardless of if the mother is working or not. Especially here in California, it's practically a foregone conclusion that the father will be paying.

You show me any data that says an equal number of women pay an equal amount of child support to fathers that are taking care of their kids and I'll retract my statement. Though, the level of your ressearch is probably not up to any real standards judging by the language you use calling people you've never met "retards" and spouting onsense phrases like "And I already one of you retards are gonna her body". Next time, try calming down and proofreading before you click that "submit answer" button.

Asailum · Answer

cause child support is a shady system and a lot of women abuse it completely. Why do you think there's so much paternity fraud going on? Girls can have a guys paycheck seized with absolutely no proof that he's the father .. just claiming it is enough! (which is against the constitution btw).

And you must be delusional since you act like having a child is her choice alone. Its both their kid so they both decide together, and they both raise the kid together. That's why having an abortion is BOTH of their choice, its both of their chromosomes mixing together to make life. If she wants to have the kid anyways, then she should pay for it herself. If he wants to have the kid and she doesn't, then it should go vice versa, he raises it and she doesn't pay anything.

Honestly though, your looking at it from only one angle and its pretty immature of you.

VeteranSoldier · Answer

I am in this situation and women like you make me sick to my stomach. We don't like paying because we know you women never use it on OUR child.

Second.

Why should we PAY to see our child? I fought to see my daughter after my ex wife cheated me out of custody, and visitations. She ended up murdering the child. But she was given FULL custody right off the bat even after proving her to be a drunk and slut.

I was never given a chance.

So my guess is because you screwed us over took EVERYTHING we worked for and we are stuck PAYING you for the next 18 years.

Why do guys whine and bitch so much about paying child support?

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