I have been trying to date again after being single for about a year and I have tried twice one cheated and the other is just way to clingy and is making me want to be single again for another year so before I give it up for another year I would like to get some insight. Now to inform you all I'm being deployed in November so ill be in Afghanistan for 7 months so that puts a dent in things. I also have a daughter from the relationship that made me single for the first year who is going out want a guy with a kid is that just me or is that not a problem?
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Having a kid is not a major problem. Does your daughter stay with you or does she stay with mom? If she stays with her mom I don't see where the problem is, people have children and split up it happens all the time. If the child stays with you, then this could be a problem for some women that are afraid they might end up raising the child (or that you might not see them as a long-term prospect due to the child). It all has to do with the people you chose. And there are a lot of people out there so I don't think that dating two women and not finding the appropriate one for you should be a major problem. You really need to be clear about what type of woman you want in your life (her characteristics, personality, physical appearance and all that) so that you get to start looking for her consciously in the appropriate places. Being deployed does not help one bit. I'm sorry but unless the woman is either in the military herself OR knows of people in the military they might possibly think "what's the point of going out with him if he goes abroad, gets killed or ends up forgetting all about me". I know its a twisted way of thinking but some women don't want to get through the drama of separation. If you are looking for a serious life-time partner and not a fling, I would date casually for the time being and then look for that partner once I'm back.0