Why is it so easy for some people to get dates or boyfriend/girlfriend and for others so difficult?
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Its all about how well you know yourself and how well socially assimilated you are (which relates back to how you know yourself and if you are comfortable being who you are) and how often you leave the house for social opportunities.
Mostly those who get dates and relationship opportunities are not necessarily the prettiest, funniest, or richest, etc people they are just people who know themselves well and have some sort of self-insight due to the richness of the experiences they've had in their lives. If you are insecure, not confident, and don't know how to hold a conversation or extend yourself even lightly with someone new you are not going to make the other person feel comfortable enough to want to know more about you (insecure people are very difficult and draining to be around). Also if you don't make yourself go out to parties or social events or have the courage to stop hiding in the corner or in your room for most of the week you are not even making yourself available to the hundreds of people you could be meeting at any given month. So you're doing it to yourself in that regard.
if you want to participate in life you have to at first 1) get out and have some experiences which lead to 2) self insight and gaining the experience necessary to become comfortable with a) who you are and b) how to manage yourself appropriate and positively with others, which leads to 3) more social opportunities, connections, dating, and a well rounded self esteem and happy, meaningful life.
Its not about other people being better than you or having more than you, its about who you are to others. And that all starts with you. How much effort you are willing to put in to do the correct emotional work on yourself that will make you comfortable being alone and therefore comfortable being with others and thus how comfortable others are with you.
If you are not getting what you want out of life with other people its not because they have something you don't or the world is against you etc. It is because you haven't done gained the self-insight necessary to make yourself available to LIFE.
it all starts with you!2