99% of the messages I send out are never responded to and I actually put a lot of thought into them. they're relatively short, genuine, I ask open ended questions and bring in stuff that I liked from their profile. but still I get nothing. it's pretty frustrating. so girls, what kinds of messages do you actually respond to...if you respond at all.
also, how many messages do girls really receive? is it possible that mine are just not read because they're 1 of 100 messages in a girls inbox and no one wants to read 100 messages.
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It's all about the numbers. I had a pretty basic profile and I'm no Brad Pitt. The women I like are curvy to chubby women so they don't generally go on those sites or already have this preconceived notion that all men want sex.
I look at profiles and only respond to the ones I would actually date. I read over their profile and send them a carefully sculpted message. I could see that some read my message, while others haven't logged on in awhile.
I waited a week or so and didn't get any messages back. I was pretty picky and only chose a few women who seemed ideal. So I broadened my search. Picking ones that fit the type and took the time to read the profiles again. Sent out a bunch more but got the same results.
I didn't take into consideration that most women get messages from slimeballs. Short messages like "Got nude pics" or "Want to cam with me?" and have left the site disgusted. Then you have another group that will read your message and check out your profile. They could be looking for ripped pics, fancy cars, lots of money, etc. If you don't make the grade, they won't respond.
Eventually you get discouraged in spending all this time to each profile. You start to cut and paste a generic message. Sure you add a line or two to make it semi-personal but nonetheless it results in more quantity and less quality. You might get a bite or two from that wide net you threw out there.
When they do respond they might ask you things like "Why did you decide to message me?" or "How many people have you messaged on here?" and you might be in a pickle. Deflect the question if you can because they do NOT want the truth.
I decided the online dating site wasn't my thing. I changed my profile to only wanting new friends and then I started getting emails. We would exchange messages for awhile and the women would get frustrated that I didn't want to meet them right away. Or even that I was firm in my stance about only wanting friendship. I ended up deleting the profile in the end.
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