I'm a young single mother, I have guys interested and then once they find out I have a kid, poof they're gone like they never existed.
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It's hard if either one of you doesn't know what they're doing. Unfortunately, most of your sisters who have kids don't date so much as hold job interviews for the future fathers of their children. Job interviews are fun for no one, so guys discover that they can avoid that stress by avoiding those women.
How do you deal with this? First, delay the revelation. I'm not saying hide who you are--you should answer truthfully if asked, for example--but it's probably not a first or second date topic; if he doesn't like you, it doesn't matter whether you have kids.
Then, decide what this guy's place in your kids' life will be. Daddy? Friendly uncle? No one? Figure out what you and your kids will live with, then pick a guy that fits.
But, don't be one of THOSE women. Now that you know why he's gun-shy, you're not going to give him another reason, right? You're going to let him know that you're going to give him time to make the transition. You'll let him know that everybody's going to be patient with the inevitable mistake. And, you'll reassure him that you're a grownup and would understand if it doesn't work out, but that you just want to give it a try.0