I'm aiming this question at people, both girls and guy, who are considered highly attractive by many.
Being physically desirable must make you feel very confident with yourselves.
But what about those of us who are physically undesirable due to our physical flaws? Any advice for those people who feel like they have no chance in hell of ever finding someone who will give them a chane?
For guys it could be because they are fat or skinny or too short etc. For girls it may be because they are overweight or too tall etc. Some of us aren't as blessed as some people when it comes to physical attractiveness.
So do you physically attractive people have any advice for the less physically attractive people such as myself?
I'm not saying what my physical downfall is because this is aimed at everyone with any sort of physical downfall.
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Look.. Right now your focusing on all the "bad" about you, but I bet those friends/family that you have know that there are a lot of great things about you. Those great things aren't being shown to people across the room - that's why appearance is so endearing, you can tell that someone is valuable by a simple look, you don't have to spend 5 minutes talking to them, you know that they already have something you want.
That's the whole complex of attraction AND of confidence -> Having something other people want.
If your life sucks, your ugly, you smell, bad acne, no intelligence, you lack humor, and are completely self-conscious.. Most of us would want nothing to do with you in that type of condition. What I would recommend is to do what you CAN to improve yourself.
- Develop great conversational skills (Humor / WIT / etc) ; Believe it or not, I have a lot of obese friends that date extremely gorgeous women because they have a great personality, not because they look like super-star football players. Those types of people who focus on conversational skills get along better with the people around them 10x fold, if not more, than an average person.
- Go to the gym / get acne products / change your wardrobe / focus a little more effort on your hygiene ; Typically speaking from the people I talk to, including friends in real life, a lot of those people are unwilling to change something about them. But what I've noticed is that people in general, don't care about what you HAVE, they are focused on your drive to work with what you have. So if your going to the gym (to improve your looks, maybe slim down or bulk up), versus if you were born with great looks, then your gonna have a much stronger impact on the people who meet you. Because you have a "drive" that you WANT to change.
- Go after what you want ; Maybe this stuff is holding you back. Maybe it seems impossible to overcome.. But when you reach your goal of being more social or "looking attractive", etc.. Your gonna feel a lot more confidence within YOURSELF.. That's something that you can't just throw away as if it's meaningless.. It's that personal accomplishent's JOURNEY that makes you more confident, not just playing the role of being great with women and/or being attractive.. It's more about the path one takes to get to their goal, overcoming the obstacles, and putting in the hard-work.
Lastly - there's people with physical disabilities (formation of bones/etc) that have issues like this.. My advice in this scenario, is to work with what you have and follow the advice above. Do what you CAN, don't sit around grieving about it. Saying your not good enough isn't going to attract any extra people into your life, but showing them that you don't f***ing care and that you are willing to do whatever it takes to succeed, WILL bring more people into your social life.
Best of all, take care and good luck man.