We went out for 4 dates, then out of nowhere she disappeared on me. Asked her out for a fifth, first time she had an excuse. Second time she didn't even respond to my text. Figured if she blatantly ignored my text, she wasn't interested anymore.
But the last date we went on went so well.. I thought things were going well. I don't know why she suddenly disappeared on me.
Many things went through my head..maybe she lost interest, found someone else, maybe she didn't think I was serous about her, maybe she thinks I just want to get in her pants and not have a committed relationship... all these things are possibilities, I don't know she never told me why she never responded to my texts, she just stopped.
And she never initiated contact with me first EVER while we were dating, so for all I know she was upset at me for something I said or did, chose to ignore me asking her out (she is a bit immature), and now sees me not contacting her as a sign of disinterest.
But that's like the best case scenario that brewed in my head.. in all honesty it could just be that she doesn't wanna see me anymore.
Would one last text hurt? I haven't talked to her in two weeks, because I haven't initiated anything. I just feel like I need to get over her, because she obviously had some trust issues and was immature, but we were so similar and had such good times together..I don't know what went wrong. Should I just text her a simple hey how've you been or should I just honestly move on and find someone else?
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I wouldn't text her again. It sucks not knowing what went wrong, but it doesn't appear that she's worth your time. Some guys feel like they need to "do everything they can to save the budding relationship" before giving up. You don't need to do that. It's actually worse for your self esteem if you try "everything". She's not meeting you halfway or initiating anymore. That's essential. You deserve a girl that wants to be around. There's nothing else you need to see. You don't need to be loyal to the bitter end if she's not even an active participant. You're FREEEEEEEEE!2