I am 24 and have a daughter. I have a bachelor's degree in business and a good job. I support my daughter and myself. I was just wondering how guys feel about dating a girl with a child?
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I admit, personally it would give me a lot of pause. But that's me.
I adore children. But I want to start out with someone who is inexperienced with certain things, so that we can have fun learning that stuff together.
If I can do the diapers, and get them into school, and go through the potty training, and burping, and feeding, and all the stuff that you learn to grow with the kid, then I feel more confident in what I can tackle. If it's all done for me, then I don't feel like I get the true experience of learning as much about life.
I'll admit, sometimes it seems pretty shallow, but it's also about the experiences my wife and I would have. If she's a 35 year old divorcee with 2 middle schoolers, she's at a different point in life than I am. and those differences might make things harder for her and myself in the long run.
Sometimes, with a divorcee, if the ex is in your new husband wife, boyfriend and girlfriends life, it becomes more of a strain on the new relationship. I know of a few ex wives (and 1 ex husband) who are nasty people. The new relationships are damaged by the stuff that these exes are trying to pull, and are constantly stressed out by accusations, legal trouble, etc.
At the very least, as a guy, if I become attached to the child (I sometimes do), then you there's a bad break up with the woman, you've not only possibly hurt the woman, and possibly yourself, but you've hurt the child emotionally.
I admit, I would have to think about it very hard before I got involved.
And there's some very lovely women who have children, who deserve respect and love and compassion from a special kind of man. I'm just not at that point. But who knows? Things can change.5