I'm into this new guy, and he's a bit smarter than the guys I usually go for. I've gone out with all kinds of suceessful guys, athletes, models, musicians mainly. All very fun, exciting, and good looking, but none of them were really that intelligent, which works out because I'm not intelligent either. I'm kind of ditzy actually. lol
This new guy I like is really smart, and I'm really insecure around him. We flirt sometimes, but he hasn't asked me out yet, so I'm thinking of just asking him myself. If he says no, it's cool, but I'd rather know for sure how he feels before I move onto the next guy. In general, do you think a smart guy would go for a girl who isn't really intelligent? Should I try, or just let it go?
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I'd rather help your with your particular perdicament rather than answering you opening question with a personal preference . . . hopefully that will be more helpfull to you
as such . . . I have to say . . .well . . .it really depends on how you define 'intelligent'.
I know it may seem like I'm dragging out your point here but it is rather important. . . especially for someone in our age bracket. . . I'm only trying to give a better answer.
If you attribute intelligence to WHAT SOMEONE KNOWS . . . then I can understand how that would be intimidating . . . but do know that you have no reason to be.
In the information age that we live in, people who are highly specialised and knowledgable in there field of interest are becoming more and more like the norm.
As such, the typical science nerds, maths geeks and history buffs are becoming more and more open . . . for they are no longer ashamed about what interests them (and nor should they).
However . . . a certain degree of insecurity is held by some of them . . . so, if this is the case, then maybe you asking him out is not such a bad idea.
Nevertheless, If this guys sounds like one of these people . . . then RELAX . . . they understand that their knowledge of their field is not something that is shared by all . . . and will NEVER (from what I have experienced) denegrate or judge another person as such. . . just be you're normal cool self.
If you attribute intelligence to HOW SOMEONE THINKS (as I do) . . . then I'm afraid . . . your in for much more of a mixed bag.
Now, in this case, I'm talking about the 'arts' crew . . . musicians, artists, philosophers, phycologists, writers, journalists, designers . . . . . so on so forth.
Now, while in this group your bound to find a lot of interesting and fun people . . . its not without its healthy population of self-absorbed, abnoxious, pretentious douche bags . . . who will claim superiority over anybody who is not as 'astute' as they are ANY CHANCE THEY GET. . . especially males!
If this guy sounds like he might be in the second group then I suggest you reply back --- give us more information . . . so then maybe I can help you not feel so insecure around him.
But I should say . . . MANY guys in this catagory pride themselves on their ability to manipulate other people . . . and will not take anyone seriously until they can 'prove themselves'.
Its a 21st century twist on the alpha male . . . only these guys deal with brain NOT brawn . . .
. . . so be warned!
but in case I don't hear back from you . . . I suppose ill say good luck with it all!
its bin a pleasure :)